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[Sylvia]

One of my biggest problems is I live in fear. When something happens I tend to want to fix it fast to get rid of it. I don't always ask God what He wants me to do. If I do ask Him, its sometimes after I have tried to put a bandaide on it and instead of making it better, I make it worse.
I fear rejection
I fear losing my kids
I fear messing up again

Those are the biggest ones.
I know that my verse that I have by my name in here is Romans 8:31
"If God be for us, who can be against us?"

He is on my side. He has never let me down. So why do I fear?
In Him
Sylvia

[mlg]

Sylvia, fear comes often from never truly letting go of our past. For example, think of a baby, they don't fear hot, until they have touched a hot iron or tasted a hot drink. After experiencing the pain, they fear the hot item. The same can be true of our lives. We experience pain, we fear the future of that area, because of the past. The past should be a learning experience, but you shouldn't walk on hands and needles because as you get older, you know to blow on a hot drink to make it cooler. Now you have to walk carefully in situations that have caused you pain in the past, but you don't have to fear them, as you can overcome them, and God will be there to hold your hand.

luv ya

[splash]

Wow what great posts thank you Sylvia, mlg and Forgiven. Fear is satan's biggest weapon becuase it attacks FAITH head on. So don't forget it's a spiritual battle that we're in... be aware that fear is Satan's trick to take your focus from Christ and place it on yourself or your circumstances.. and then walk through the steps of confessing your fear, rebuking it, and asking God to replace it with the Holy Spirit fruit of Faith.

We belong to God and He's transforming us. It was His choice to make us out of dirt when he could have made us from pure gold in the first place. Therefore, I can only assume that He likes having us run to him for help. Which I do often. Very very often.

I love you guys,

splashi

[Sylvia]

thanks to all of you for answering me back. For those of you who heard my testimony at Real solutions chat a while ago you know that I have been through a lot. I went through a bunch of things in a short period of time. For those of you who don't know I will list a few. Both my parents died. I had a grand mal seizure after my Mothers funeral. My oldest son almost died from a drug and alcohol overdose, my youngest son at the same time was diagnosed as mentally ill (plus he has aspbergers syndrome) I got cancer and lost my job. Now they tell me I have MS.
But this isn't the stuff that Satan throws at my face. He reminds me that I was fool enough to marry my first husband after only knowing him a few months. Then 3 weeks later he tells me he is not really a Christian.
He beat me, my son and left me pregnant with 2 others in diapers.
I had just graduated from Bible college and had dreams of being a pastors wife, or missionary. I feel I failed God in not recognizing the liar for what he was. This is why I have problems forgiving myself. But then God reminds me of what I have now, a wonderful Christian man who walks with the Lord and loves me. He adopted my 3 kids and I helped raise his daughter who he was raising by himself. God has blessed us in so many ways. Why then can't I leave the past behind me?
I think about what could have been. But today when I was praying, God told me I never would have given my husband and his little girl a second look if I had not experienced what I had. Our two families blended together so well, it was a testimony to the Lord that He was in it.
Thanks again for listening
Sylvia

[Sylvia]

mlg1279, forgiven & splash
I have to share this with you. I was watching Joyce Meyers this morning.
She spoke exactly what we talked about yesterday. God is at work!!
It was like she was in on our conversation yesterday about fear.
She said "go beyond your feelings-they don't tell you the truth.
We are daughters of the King of Kings. Victory is doing whats right when it feels wrong. Keep on Keeping on. The spirit continually wars against the flesh and the flesh continually wars agains the spirit. Live by what you know and not how you feel. God has a plan.
She even talked about being deserted by a husband. Thats how specific her talk was compared to what we talked about!
She said God has a plan. We have to stop going by feelings and concentrate on what we know is truth.
I know this was an answer to my prayers yesterday after doing Day 5.
I know God is working in my heart. I couldn't wait to tell you!!
Luv you my dear sisters
Sylvia