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[seeking1234]

I BEEN FEELING LONELY LATELY.. SPECIALLY ON THE WEEKENDS ...LOL.. I WISH I COULD FALL IN LOVE OR MEET A MAN THAT CAN SHOW ME THAT HE GENUENLY CARES AND WILL STAND BY ME.. I WANT TO BE CUDDLED AT NIGHT AND FEEL APPRECIATED.. I KNOW SOME PEOPLE MIGHT SAY, WELL GOD LOVES YOU AND THATS ALL YOU NEED... WELL I GET THAT BUT I WANT SOME ONE THAT I CAN TOUGH AND SEE.... ITS DIFFERENT... I DIDNT HAVE A FATHER FIGURE SO ALL MY LIFE I WANTED A MAN BY ME.. I AM SO NEEDY OF ATTENTION FROM A MAN THAT I END UP WITH ANY GUY THAT CAN SHOW ME JUST ALIL INTEREST.. ITS SO STUPID I KNOW !! I WOUNDER IF I AM EVER GOING TO FIND SOMEONE .. ITS BEEN SO LONG SINCE I HAD A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP, I MISS IT.. IM VERY CLINGY MAYBE THATS WHY I AM SINGLE.. I JSUT AM PASSIONATE ABOUT EVERYTHING I DO AND EVERYONE I LOVE.. IM SURE THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE THAT CAN UNDERSTAND MY WAYS... OMG.. ITS LATE!!! IM SO GLAD I CAN EXPRESS MYSELF HERE AND LET MY THOUGHTS OUT WITHOUT HOLDING BACK...... WELL GOOD NIGHT CHRISTIANOASIS.....

[dema]

When a person is neglected as a child, or abused, there is an unmet need. An insecurity. God is the only one who can heal that hurt. Until the hurt is healed, it is very difficult to have a successful relationship. You pointed out that you are clingy. This is a sign of an unmet need. It is good that you see that.

Healing is a process. Many church people will tell you to just pray and God will fix it. But if the problem is a lot of childhood hurt, it doesn't work that way. There is a process. And the process takes a while. If you want to talk to me more about this, you can PM me. I will be happy to talk with you.

I understand your need for companionship. That is a reasonable desire - one that God will likely grant. There is just work to do first. Hugs.

[seeking1234]

OMG.. YES I AGREE! MY QUESTION IS, DOES EVERYONE THAT HAS A RELATIONSHIP PROBLEM FREE?? ITS A NON ENDING PROCESS TO WORK THOSE PAST ISSUES AND MOVE ON.... IM THE TYPE OF PERSON THAT LIVES IN THE PAST AND I KNOW THAT NOT HEALTHY BUT , THE INSECURITY THAT I HAVE FROM WHEN I WAS A CHILD TO NOW IS THE SAME... I STILL FEEL SO SMALL IN MANY WAYS , NOT GOOD ENOUGH, NOT SMART ENOUGH.... I KNOW I AM NOT SUPPOSED TO REPEAT THAT OUT LOUD BUT ITS HARD TO STOP THOUGHTS LIKE THAT ... OFCOURSE I NEVER ALLOW ANYONE KNOW HOW I REALLY FEEL... I WALK AND TALK LIKE I AM SO SECURE AND CONFIDENT... THATS MY SHIELD TO PROTECT MYSELF FROM ANYONE MAKING ME FEEL LEESS THAN OR NOT GOOD.... I WAS ATTENDING CHURCH AND IT WAS GOING GREAT BUT I GOT COUGHT UP AND STOPED.. ITS TIME TO GO BACK I MISS IT....

[FaithCW]

I carry a crucifix in my pocket to use as a tool when the wheels in my head tell me, 'not good, smart, pretty, worthy, lovable, etc' enough. When I run my fingers over it, I am reminded of the gift, the blood shed on my behalf. Don't nobody come to Christ and get the answers right away. The Apostle Paul states a few times, 'I have learned...,' which to me means there was a time when he didn't know. The walk with Christ is intimate; He wants so badly to hear from us. After my divorce, I dismissed marriage altogether, unless, I told God, He would pick a mate for me, a man who loved God more than he loved me. April 9, 2013 will be 23 years, worth every argument, hurt and insecurity, because from these things, God has truly made two become one. Ask, seek, knock - God hears prayers. Thanks for writing and being real.