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If a person punches you in the face, and you forgive them, you still walk around with a black eye for a while. It takes time to heal.

And if that person later raises their fist, it is likely that you will duck or move out of the way.

Did you see The Lion King?

My husband wasn't physically abusive, but the patterns were there. One doesn't just "forget".

I don't want to collect on debts - I forgive the debt. My ex-husband was badly taken advantage of by a golddigger mistress. I forgive her in that if we were at the pearly gates and I was asked what charges I had against her, I would just say, "Her salvation is between her and God." In other words, in a court of law I would not press charges.

But, I'm not likely to ever forget that my ex-husband had a fist fight with her in front of our house and three police cars were called by the neighbors.

I mentioned before - I don't dwell in the unpleasantness or the past. But, I visit there. And I don't like the visits. And I don't see how they are avoidable. And I would like a shoulder to cry on after these visits.

I enjoyed your honesty and sincere response to todays study.

I'm guessing your response is to the forgiveness study?

hello dema,

Yes indeed it does take time to heal. We have to clean the wound to make sure no infection is taking root beneath the surface, we have to keep other dirt out by taking proper care to cover the wound with a sterile wrap, and we have to maintain that sterile environment for the wound to heal properly and of course the ointment or salve to protect. It is up to us or our caregivers to take care of the wound and to make sure it is being cleaned and new bandages are applied regularly. Even when there is too much cleaning of the wound it can cause irritation and it can become inflamed. So yes we have to give time between cleanings for proper care.


These visits we take are not avoidable as far as them lurking into our minds. But we can definitely shift our thoughts to things of today. Living for today, one day at a time. Paul says forget the past and strive toward the mark, the finish line. If i get stuck in a past circumstance or thoughts, i now, as soon as i recognize it, turn my thoughts towards Him.

I personally get the most peace and comfort when i cry on His shoulder. And i have found that The ALL loving God of eternity has the softest shoulders and the gentlest hand to sweep the hair off of my face and dry my tears.

God bless u on your continued journey with Him.

♥Jill