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Thanks to those who replied to my first blog.

my heart is and has been in turmoil for many years. I've lived through many abuses and trials from childhood until now. I am in a very troubled
marriage. I have asked my husband for a separation. He is against it and has dug his heels in. He has been very angry and controlling from the beginning and those issues are still there. As long as we don't have to do anything relational (and i don't rock the boat) things are kinda ok. My problem is i have lost my patience with him. i want a voice, a life, and a real relationship - one without excuses,fear,secrets, lies,being used,hidden motives and beliefs. I have a lot of anger! I've run out of time
being it's the 4th.

Hi christina, good to see you again. My heart goes out to you. Seems as you have been through much in your lifetime. You have some pain and hurt that you need to be healed from...and you are now headed down the right path. I also want you to know that you have a friend named Jesus who wants to come and help you with all these trials. He has a plan for you...and He wants to bless you and give you good things. I sure hope you will invite Him to join you daily.

Praying for you sis.

Come visit us sometime in the chatroom.

Take care and God Bless

Hi christina,

First i wld like to say i am sorry for the turmoil you are going through. Living through abuse is no walk in the park, and unfortunately quite a bit of those who had been abused in their childhood enter into abusive relationships into their adulthood. Its something we "know" about. Familiar territory that we ironically deem to feel safe in.

Sis, work on yr relationship with the Lord and the rest will begin to fall into place.

My problem is i have lost my patience with him. i want a voice, a life, and a real relationship - one without excuses,fear,secrets, lies,being used,hidden motives and beliefs.

We have all these things in Him

Here are some scripts that were on my heart for you.

And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he hears us: John 5:14

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. John 10:10

For if, when we were enemies, we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, being reconciled, we shall be saved by his life. Romans 5:10

God bless and keep u in His loving care.

Continue with the steps.

♥Jill

Hello Christina

Don't give up sis. If things are "ok" when you don't rock the boat that means they can be great once you get the Holy Ghost with in your marriage.

I'd like you to take this 14 day step and apply it to yourself and what you can do to change. For Christ.

Allow you spouse to be who he is right now and let God take care of him. Let's work on you.

Being abused leaves us with a lot of work through. Let's work on that. Because we can't change him, but God can.

God loves you and so do I!