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I have what some would consider an ok body. But in my culture thin is not in. So I grew up ridiculed because of how thin I was. Even now men from culture will say how much more attractive I would be if I gained weight. In addittion I grew up always hearing how thin I was and that I looked sickly and anorexic (which I'm not I looove food!) and other not funny jokes. There was a time when I wouldn't even wear a skirt or shorts because I disliked my legs. Actually there was a time when I didn't even want to look in the mirror. I am very disatisfied with my body even now. I try to look nice and not think about it but I'm not happy with it. I know I should trust God and believe I am beautiful but its hard when you feel you are not. And to make things worse I am always comparing myself with other women. Which only makes me more self conscious. I've been talking to a nice guy on the phone and he is interested in me. We haven't met in person but we are going to meet over my winter break and I am so worried about what he will think of me. My problem is that I am a words peson. When people say mean things to me I really remember. Like when my youngest sister told me I should try and gain weight to fill out a dress that I was trying on. :-( When I was a teen-ager I used to get sooo angry at God for making my body like this. Even just recenlty I was looking at my legs and saying to God I don't know what you were thinking when you created this body. Afer all this time you would think that I would have accepted my body but nope I'm still very very disappointed with it. I know this is probably so opposite because there are so many people who want to lose weight. So I just don't even talk about this to people. Well I'm just happy for this site so that I can get this off my chest.
Thanks for reading my body image rant...

hello agape

welcome to Oasis family

i know where are those u ve shared, came from..been there. well, in the world eyes im a tiny girl too..just few days ago..my 4 yrs old nephew asked me..why ur arms are this small..nearly the size of his arms i understand kids are curious and wud asked a l ot of question.
we have to remember..Who created u and me?..isnt that by the love and grace of our lovely Father..
imagine..if all human with same size ..isnt that boring..
He created you..youniquely you..u are special...
dun let the the lies of the world to get u down..
dun let the world try to define who you u are in G od..
cling on the One who wud never let u down...
let go and let God..

love ya!

Hello Agape

I come from a family of very thin people. I'm the only one that is not thin. Just as I remember the names they called me, I am certain they remember the names I called them. Tooth pick, wall, ect ect.

Even as adults they would talk about my extra pounds not realizing they were hurting me. The reason they didn't realize this is because they wanted to have a few extra pounds. I never knew it hurt them to hear how thin they were and they never thought about how it hurt me to speak of my outward appearance the way they did.

We all have our good qualities and our bad qualities. The right man will love not only your good qualities but your bad as well.

I know a man who has a scar on his face. His girlfriend loves that scar and wouldn't have him remove it if he could. Because it's a part of him. That is love. Real love. Not the fluffy artificial stuff we find so often these days.

The words spoken to you, that hurt you are not from God. When they come to mind, pull them out and speak the truth to your mind. You are wonderfully made.

Psalms 139:14
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.

God made you with his own hands, just as you are.

He knit each piece together. He knew you before you were born. And he still called you his own even then.

Psa 139:13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb.

Jer 1:5 "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations."

When God looks at you he is in awe over his creation. Don't allow anyone to cut down on Gods work.

I can't imagine creating something and having so many humans point out all the errors. It must sadden God.

Love ya sister. You keep your chin up. Notice your eyes point to heaven when you do.

oh learning
When the words people say hurt you, they become word curses. Most people don't even realize they are cursing others or themselves. ("I am so stupid... I'm so clumsy...etc")
So lets break those word curses right now. Say out loud, "I break the word curses of me being too skinny (you can be specific with the exact things said if you want) right now in Jesus's name"
Then ask God to fill you with love, joy and wisdom. That you no longer take offense from now on about your weight and that you can accept any reference with humor and love.

Now here is the hard part, believe that God has taken that burden from you and don't allow it to hurt you again. Don't allow the enemy to whisper lies to you. You are you and God made you that way for a reason. Culture is man's rules.
That is why it is important for you to ask God to fill you with joy, wisdom and humor, so you can look at these comments differently. Laugh
Yes, I know it hurt you in the past but now Jesus will be with you and guide you to respond differently to these people. Laugh and say something bright back "Isn't it amazing, models are killing themselves to look like this and it comes naturally to me" and smile

If you know you are going to be in a situation where someone will mention your thinness, pray first before getting there that the Holy Spirit will guide your words and reactions. He is there to help us and when we ask, always will.

And don't worry about meeting this person you are talking on the phone with. If he is meant to be your husband, it won't matter what you look like.

ps I used to be thin until I turned 35 then 10 pounds just popped out of nowhere and attached itself to me...

learning

I have a friend that is a very petite lady as well. She has struggled so much as you have shared here, with how others identify her. But as time has moved along, she has grown closer to God and realized that God made her who she is, and that He loves her and what others say to her isn't how God sees her. I pray that you will begin to see this as well. God finds you to be beautiful and He loves you dearly.

I too am one that has struggled with what others say to me. My feelings get hurt very easily. I'm learning to not let things effect me near as much...but when a close friend says something to hurt me...my emotions tend to take over. If I will turn to God as soon as someone hurts me, then I will forgive and let go..but if I allow my emotions to take over, uh oh...

It's truly about letting go and letting God. As you gorw with God you will see this become easier.

luv ya

Thanks everyone. You all brought forth valid points. It comes down to me believing what God says about me. So i'm going to learn to trust him more.

at "models are killing themselves to look like this"

Focus on your path and not the choices of others who blindly follow the trends as cattle do, by following one another to the slaughter ...

These souls are but trying to keep up with trends of today assuming it is what is expected ...

They were once lil girls thinking boys had cooties and could not care less what others thought ... UNTIL the world got a HOLD of em.

We should pray for them as they know not what they do.

But will soon ...

God's will be done.



Luv ya