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I am so confused and hurt. My marriage is down the tubes, i can't stand my parents. I have so much animosity towards everyone.

My husband and I both had affairs but he left the house he says it was because of my affair which happened seven years ago. Now he say he want to move back home with me but we need to discuss the affair, which by the way we did not do in the passed. Before all of the affair happened he totally control everything i did and he even physically abuse me. Now the abuse is mental and emotional and i can't seem to get out of the abuse. It is like i can't stand it but i keep letting it happen and i hate myself for being so weak.

I have no control of my life, i don't go to church, being by myself is the only thing that feels right and when i am by self my mind is total occupied by all the problems in my life.

My parents left me with my grand parents from the age of 9mths and never really care about me. Now i am grown i am trying to have a relationship with them but i seems to be a one way street. i don't think i have forgive them for not being there for me while growing up. Growing up with my grand parents was not to bad but there are some scars that are not and i don't know how begin to the healing process. The names i was called they told me that i will amount to nothing, that my parents just drop me and don't care about me. And thats just a short list.

My aunts ans uncle they love me only when i do what they want me to do. if i don't then i am the worst person in the world. I can't stand up to them. I tell lies just to make me look good i hate this person i am. i feel so confined.

I really need help but i don't know how to start.

Hi Helpless
Let me start out by saying welcome to Oasis. So glad you are here. I do not believe that you are here by accident.
In your post I hear a lot of hurt and unforgiveness in your words. I know that must be hard....but allow me to tell you of one will will never leave you nor forsake you. That is Jesus Christ. HE loves you so much and gave His life for you. He loves you unconditionally and just as you are. You said that you do not go to church, may I as a question here? Do you have a relationship with Him? That should be first and foremost.
You have found a place that will love you and accept you as you are. Oasis has a lot to offer for those who are hurting. Allow me to introduce one area to you, that would be the Christian Counseling Forum here . http://www.christianityoasis.com/CCCC/Forum.htm this link will take you straight to the site. I would encourage you to take a peek and see.
You may feel helpless but He never is and is always willing to reach out and help you if you will but trust and let Him.

God bless you on your journey. Hope to see you in chat soon.

Hello helpless, welcome to the oasis. We are so delighted to have you here. I agree with Tam, the counseling steps will definitely help you. There is healing in these steps.

Sis, from what I read here, there is a lot of hurt from your past. Jesus wants to take these hurts from you, and to bring you a new life with Him. He has hope for you sis, and He knows that you can begin anew and heal from the past. Coming here tells me that you are seeking that for your life. Just remember healing takes time, and it's one step at a time.

Praying for you and your hubby and family sis.

We are here for you. Hope to see you in the chatroom sometime.

Take care and God Bless

hey helpless, you are alone no longer.
How can these people, these stranger, care for me as much as they seem to? you may be asking yourself. Because we do! We love you and don't care what your past has been like, only what your future will become.
And with the Lord's help, it will be grand.

So don't be afraid of us and go back to your shell by yourself... that is such a lonely place. Continue to come and meet us.
Take the study being offered and come to chat.

And I love to give hugs so get used to them

Hello I'm new here but just wanted to encourage you to not give up. God has not given up on you and he never will. God knows and understands all of your pain. Often in life pain lies to us and then we don't know who we are. But God wants you to know that you are beautiful to him. He has always loved you and he always will. There is nothing you have to or can do to make him start or stop loving you. At this very moment God loves you perfectly. Don't give up on yourself. You may not believe it now but you are someone beautiful and special. Your life has value and purpose.
Here is a scrpture
Psalm 27:10
Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close.

God will never stop holding you close. He really does care. Be blessed.
Your sister in Christ.

Hello Helpless.

Through Jesus you are no longer helpless.
He is the help you seek.
Hope you check out that link Tam gave you if you haven't already.
The counseling steps are wonderful.
I am glad the Lord led you here.
God loves you and so do I.
You are in my prayers.
Have a great big warm from me.
I can't wait to get to know you.
Mostly I can't wait to see you get to know God better.

God has opened a door for you. You can begin now. You have started by sharing and reaching out for help.
Glad you found us. There is alot here.

GBU


Real

I have felt the love in each response. It is a shock to me that persons actually care so much for someone you have never met.

There is a joy that i have felt since i started this forum and it is all of you that reached out that is teaching me the the true love of God. I thank God for all of you and know that i love you too.

thanks

PS I am doing the steps and it is a great help.

That's what makes the Oasis so real sis...cuz True Love does abide here. It is really awesome to have you here...and I'm excited to get to take this journey of healing with you. See you for the next step.

luv ya

Good morning Helpless....youre gonna find that where Jesus dwells, so does Love. We are all sinners saved by Grace..all on this walk to find freedom and healing from the One Who gives it freely out of His pure love for His children. Take in each word through these steps..let em sink in and trust that Jesus loves you more than life and so much more than you know. You will begin to see you the way He sees you, through the eyes of pure love.

in Jesus,
love momo

pissstttt... told ya