not to be self-righteous against other people > this can help a lot
if we're embarrassed, this can be because we're trying to keep our own self image going, maybe
and to love God beautifully sweetly, in His beautifully wonderful goodness of love . . . this is so better than the stuff we get into
so . . . be encouraged that we can do better than the stuff we are in and are trying to get for ourselves > part of why we are cursing and masterbating etc. is because we are trying to get what is not good enough for us > You, God, have better . . . so, thank You for caring for us better than we care about ourselves, with standards better than just what to do and not to do . . .
"'Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me,
for I am gentle and lowly in heart,
and you will find rest for your souls.'"
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(Matthew 11:29)
So, we all need to do better, kiki
"He can have compassion on those who are ignorant and going astray,
since he himself is also subject to weakness."
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .(Hebrews 5:2)
So, now you can feel for others.