A Christ-like Goodbye
Posted: Tue Apr 07, 2015 7:48 amSo I'm dealing with a divorce here. Been married 10 years to my precious wife, but due to multiple reasons, the least of which has been a consistent battle for me with pornography (treatment underway) which has made her feel "less than adequate", she is moving 1000 miles away to be with another. (Long story involved there.) Nevertheless, we are still living in the same house as she gets things organized and coordinated for her new life/man. Tough stuff to deal with, for sure. We still are very tender, kind and loving with one another, which further complicates and confuses me.
But the issue that I'm dealing with right now is the day that she leaves. As I said, with her moving that far away, chances are that I will never see her again after she leaves. I'll be going from seeing her every day to never seeing her again. This is going to be very difficult for the both of us and no matter what we do to prepare, it will probably all be futile at that point in time.
I'm trying to determine the best way to handle this situation to make it easier for both of us, but primarily easier for her. I don't want her driving off with tears in her eyes and endangering her driving. I've considered pretending to be angry so that it would be easier for her to leave, but also pretending to be stoic and unfeeling. What I really want is to be uber-emotional and just let it all out, beg for mercy and just leave it all "on the table". It's not as if I've not already tried this!
Is there a Christ-like way to do this? I want to edify him, and make it less difficult for her, while my flesh is screaming "WHAT ABOUT ME?". I seriously don't know how to deal with such a situation. It's bad enough that I'll be loading her U-haul for her, bad enough that "HE" will be driving the U-Haul with some of our things in it, but worst of all, at one point, she and I are literally going to go separate directions, most likely to never be seen again. This is stressing me out so incredibly. I am still so in love with this precious little woman and cannot believe that we find ourselves in this position. Does anyone have any advice for how to prepare myself for that day when we part?
Thank you, and God Bless.
"And call upon me in the day of trouble: I will deliver thee, and thou shalt glorify me." Psalms 50:15
But the issue that I'm dealing with right now is the day that she leaves. As I said, with her moving that far away, chances are that I will never see her again after she leaves. I'll be going from seeing her every day to never seeing her again. This is going to be very difficult for the both of us and no matter what we do to prepare, it will probably all be futile at that point in time.
I'm trying to determine the best way to handle this situation to make it easier for both of us, but primarily easier for her. I don't want her driving off with tears in her eyes and endangering her driving. I've considered pretending to be angry so that it would be easier for her to leave, but also pretending to be stoic and unfeeling. What I really want is to be uber-emotional and just let it all out, beg for mercy and just leave it all "on the table". It's not as if I've not already tried this!
Is there a Christ-like way to do this? I want to edify him, and make it less difficult for her, while my flesh is screaming "WHAT ABOUT ME?". I seriously don't know how to deal with such a situation. It's bad enough that I'll be loading her U-haul for her, bad enough that "HE" will be driving the U-Haul with some of our things in it, but worst of all, at one point, she and I are literally going to go separate directions, most likely to never be seen again. This is stressing me out so incredibly. I am still so in love with this precious little woman and cannot believe that we find ourselves in this position. Does anyone have any advice for how to prepare myself for that day when we part?
Thank you, and God Bless.
"And call upon me in the day of trouble: I will deliver thee, and thou shalt glorify me." Psalms 50:15
and prayers.