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Bible References to Marriage

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Bible References to Marriage of Christians

Welcome to our Christianity Oasis Til Death Do Us Part program. This is our SON-derful and absolutely inspirational Biblical Marriages adventure providing you with Christian Bible references to marriage of Christians and how they affect your be-YOU-tiful Christian marriage.

Start our Til Death Do Us Part program from the beginning:

Welcome!

Biblical Marriages Bible Verses
Bible References to Marriage of Christians Hope

I hope you have chosen to take the steps within this program one day at a time.

We have just learned, on the previous page, that before we try to deal with and resolve issues within our marriage, that we should first determine if our Marriage was meant to be and blessed by God.

We also learned that even if the relationship was built on a bad foundation for whatever reason, that with repenting, prayer and love ...

Your marriage can overcome.

When we discover problems within our relationships and marriages, we become contestants in the ...

Blame Game

The first question that comes to mind is: Who's to blame? That's the big question, is it not? But, let me ask you something, is it always so ... Black and white? Are there no gray areas?

Absolutely ...

And if Truth be told ... It is within these gray areas that we seem to be most blinded.

Check this out:

Land of the Grey
by Ginny Owens

There's a young Mother with three children
Got a stable income and a faithful husband, too.
She's searchin' for her life's meanin',
So she says to her shrink, "I'm leavin' home soon!"
Just decided that she couldn't take it anymore,
Didn't look back, she just snuck out the back door-

Chorus:
What is wrong with this picture?
We applaud this behavior
Admire how she breaks away-
Oh, it's so clearly cloudy, in the land of the grey.

There's a young Senator,
Gifted politician,
So consumed by pursuing his career.
Use to care about what the people wanted,
But now he's learned how to say what they wanna hear.
A million lies and scandals bear his name,
But you'll never see him hide his face in shame-

Chorus:
What is wrong with this picture?
We applaud this behavior
He's a hero if he makes mistakes-
Oh, it's so clearly cloudy in the land of the grey.

What's wrong? What's right? Absolute confusion.
What's black? What's white? Everything looks hazy.
Such scenarios bring me to only one conclusion-
Maybe we've all gone crazy.

Three little kids are prayin' Mama comes home,
And a little town feels violated and betrayed.
Meanwhile, two very unhappy people
Try to excuse the messes that they've made.
But you'll never hear it stated quite that way,
We can't handle it here in the land of the grey.

Biblical Marriages Counseling
Bible References to Marriage of Christians Lesson

Most of the time, the person at blame is obvious and it is usually due to selfish and prideful choices.

The end can be quite hurtful and heartbreaking for those involved with this person and the soul who made the poor choices usually spends their time making excuses, for said bad choices, as to be able to hide the guilt and/or shame.

Christian Bible References Tidbit of Truth ... There are what appears to be, obvious situations where we believe that we know the answer to "Who's to blame," such as in the examples below:

A husband has fits of anger and hits the wife at times. He has even oft times hit the children and never apologizes after. She begins to fear for her life and her children's lives. No one knows about his anger because she doesn't want to hurt his reputation as a 'good man' or the family image or cause him to become even more violent. But, one can only take so much ...

She leaves.

Who's to blame if and when that marriage failed?

A man walks in on his wife cheating on him. He asks her what he did wrong and she says "I just wanted something different" ... Obvious adultery.

He leaves.

Who's to blame because that marriage fell apart?

A couple starts to struggle with communication and begins arguing all the time. One tries to talk it out or maybe have the other one go to counseling to try to help their marriage.

The other refuses and chooses to allow it to escalate beyond repair.

Who's to blame when the marriage dies?

A wife says that she has fallen out of love with the husband. She doesn't want to be married anymore. He keeps trying to keep them together, but she refuses to stay together with him.

Who's to blame? Yeah ... Pretty obvious. Or is it?

Biblical Marriages Concerns
Bible References to Marriage of Christians Warning

Again ... It is not always black and white. Sometimes ... There is a gray area. Let's look at several scenarios together and see if we can discern who is to blame, shall we?

A husband who used to be at home a lot, now he is "working" all the time. The wife is exhausted from being with the kids and hates being alone all the time.

Who's to blame?

Now ... What if this is the whole picture ...

A family starts to struggle financially with the economy. The wife does not work, so the husband picks up a second job to feed the family and even tries to make a little extra money for the wife to go shopping. She constantly complains that he is never around and wants her time to get out and away from the kids. She feels lonely because her husband is always working for the family and she just needs to "get away" ...

Who's to blame that the marriage starts to fall apart?

A wife gets caught looking at porn. The husband is devastated.

Who's fault is it that the marriage is falling apart?

Now ... What really may have happened ... What if ... A husband or wife so desperately wants to be intimate with their spouse. But, he or she keeps avoiding the other whenever the one tried to get close. They are unable to have their sexual desires satisfied, and they have chosen to go elsewhere to fill the void within.

Who's to blame?

A spouse picks a job over the other spouse and moves away. The marriage problems begin.

Who's to blame?

Biblical Marriages Tips
Bible References to Marriage of Christians Hints

A possible story from start to finish ... One spouse gets a job promotion that the couple had been praying about, but it requires moving to a different place. The other spouse doesn't want to move away from their parents. So, they decide to live in different places, so both are happy. One gets the job promotion, the other gets the family that they didn't want to leave.

Who's to blame?

Your spouse is late. You made a special dinner. But they are late. They didn't call. They just showed up late. And you spent all that time on the dinner ... And now its cold. An argument breaks out.

Who's to blame?

Oh ... I forgot to mention ... The reason that the spouse is late is because they were laid off and they were praying in the car for almost an hour.

Who's to blame?

Does that change your answer?

Sometimes we don't know all sides of the story. Yet, we choose to over react anyway. We must not allow pride to continue to break up our current marriage or future marriage.

We all have free will. We get to choose how we are going to handle and respond to that which occurs in our lives. Remember that you get to choose the path of pride or love and understanding. You get to choose whether you allow the plot of the enemy to succeed.

Christian Bible References Trivia Time ... So, how do we overcome this pride that we have, not admitting it might just be our fault instead of placing the blame on the other person?

Love! No matter what.

The enemy of our soul can not prevail against the body of Christ from without.

Matthew 16:18

And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and upon this rock I will build my Church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.

Biblical Marriages Questions
Bible References to Marriage of Christians Answers

He must gain access from within. So, he tries to enter as to destroy Love from within by using our family, friends, whispers and our own fears and doubts of our marriage by raising questions within our heart. Let's look at a few of the questions that may be weighing on your mind and heart:

Why am I not married yet? Isn't everyone supposed to get married? Here is something Paul said:

1 Corinthians 7:7-9

⁷ For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
⁸ I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.
⁹ But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

He is suggesting that we stay unmarried, if we are able.

Here is his explanation:

1 Corinthians 7:33-35

³³ But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
³⁴ There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
³⁵ And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.

So, it appears that Paul is suggesting that everyone remain unmarried as he chose to do. Unless ... They are unable to control their passions.

Here is another Christian Bible References question ... What if my first spouse died? Am I allowed to remarry?

Romans 7:2-3

² For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
³ So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.

Biblical Marriages More Questions
Bible References to Marriage of Christians Additional Answers

When a spouse dies, the law of marriage no longer applies. Here is another question ... What if my husband or wife is unsaved? Am I supposed to divorce them because I'm a Christian and they aren't?

1 Corinthians 7:12-16

¹² But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
¹³ And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
¹⁴ For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they Holy.
¹⁵ But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
¹⁶ For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

Paul says, No. Do not leave them for that reason. Be a witness of Jesus to them. If they choose to leave, Paul says ... Let them leave.

The rules and regulations of Marriage should not be what holds the marriage together. Commitment and unconditional love should be the glue. Commitment to Christ and to each other despite difficulties that may arise.

Here is another question ... I had bad experiences in my other marriage(s), how do I restore trust in love?

Proverbs 3:5-6

⁵ Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
⁶ In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.

We should not allow our past experiences to dictate our future. We should trust in the Lord.

Here is yet another Christian Bible References question ... My parents got divorced and I'm so scared it will happen to my marriage.

Isaiah 41:10

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

John 14:27

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

Biblical Marriages Share Wisdom
Awesome Bible References to Marriage of Christians

We should not allow the past experiences of others or old wives' tales of children's lives following the parent's footsteps to deceive us as to dictate our future. Again ... We should trust in the Lord.

Here is another question ... I'm a Christian and I'm dating and/or married to a Non-Christian ... Is this acceptable?

Many Christians who like to judge others, absolutely adore using the following Scripture to condemn those who are involved with a Non-Christian.

2 Corinthians 6:14

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

Here is a study which may make the Truth clearer for you:

So, if you are being bombarded by questions and doubts of your marriage by friends, family and even the whispers in your own mind ... Consider what Jesus said, before you hear and adhere to those who would judge your marriage.

Remember that only God knows the matters of the heart. The Truth my friend is, that only the Lord knows the Truth of your situation.

Biblical Marriages Summary
Bible References to Marriage of Christians Conclusion

Obviously, He wants what is best for you, so you must find out from Him what it is that you are to do.

Religious leaders, friends, family, Paul and I can share our opinions, but only God can discern the Truth of this particular matter and guide you down the right path. Ask Him to reveal the Truth to you. Ask Him to show you His Will. Ask in Jesus' name ... Pray without ceasing. Trust in Him.

If you have already divorced, do not sit around and judge yourself or let others judge you ... That is God's job and He believes in mercy, forgiveness and Grace.

What can your worry and doubt do but cause problems for you?

Let go and let God!

If you have fallen into the traps of the enemy, do not allow pride to keep you there. We have all been there.

When you feel you must be blind
Always falling on your behind
Don't let pity be your vice
Guilt and pride are nothing nice
Get yourself up on your feet
Ask for mercy, not defeat
We don't like it when we fall
But God forgives us, scabs and all

What things are we holding on to that are negatively affecting our current marriage or future marriage? What do we need to deal with so our current/future marriage can grow?

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