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[Katniss]

Ok long story short. In the state i live in my job has been sporadic due to state level changes. I've been laid off four times in six years and terminated from my last job. My house is so very close to going into foreclosure. I have recently considered trying to just walk away from it in part to get rid of a roommate who don't help and causes more distress and discord in my life. The biggest hurdle would be moving away from my family. My mom isn't in very good health and has required my help past few months. I have thought about trying to get something within a few hours drive so i can at least help my mom on weekends. I have thought about the mountains but it's still the same state and i have three dogs. I'm so conflicted but am miserable and i want a job that i can do well in until retirement in about fifteen years. I could really use some insight and prayers. Thanks for listening or rather reading

[dema]

Making a change without resources generally isn't a good idea. As far as the jobs - right now in most locations it should be reasonably easy to find another job. If the jobs are scarce where you are, then maybe you should look prior to walking away. Walking into a better job makes more sense. Going when you only have unemployment may not be the way to go. I don't know your whole situation, but in general, the rule is that you don't make a major life change unless you have it figured out and you KNOW it is what you want to do.

Sometimes not knowing is what you want - but then you need resources and it doesn't sound like you have them.

Pray. Action should be taken when you have peace for the next step. I don't think you would be writing here if you had peace about moving.

Houses are selling fast around here. Have you thought of selling?

And work - it helps to find what is good about work. It is easy to be pulled into what isn't good about work and of course most of us wouldn't choose to go to work as many days a year as we do, even if we like what we do. Using work as a way to give compliments and share God's love can make the days a lot better - and it also makes you more valuable to others. No, that isn't part of the job description. But taking in cookies if you bake, or noticing when someone has something new can really make work a better place to be. And if you are making work better, many times they will find a way to keep you. And of course there are the basics that I'm sure you know about being on time, dressing appropriately. Additionally, there was an employee where I work who would just not do stuff if she couldn't get to it. She didn't tell us that she wasn't going to get to it unless we asked where it was. It caused some embarrassment until we figured out that she just wasn't going to do certain things. She complained later that she never got promoted - well, if you want to get promoted you need to do more than what your current job is And certainly not less. If you can't get something done, then you let people know and show some regret. You try to learn new things. You plan on working a little late (early apparently doesn't impress people, but late does. Go figure on that one. Many surveys show it is true.)

So, lots of advice - but the answer to your question is - pray, get peaceful, pray more - and don't make a change unless you are sure that God has blessed it or, if you aren't used to hearing from God, until you are very sure that the new is certainly better than the old. When they are equal, stick with the old.

And if this makes you really mad - well, figure out why. It may tell you where your heart is. But still pray and get peaceful before you do it. If you feel you shouldn't, then you shouldn't.

[Mackenaw]

Hello Katniss (((hugs)))

God bless you this day.

I have to agree with Dema that making a drastic change and move without some type of plan doesn't seem to be the answer, because I don't get the sense that you have peace about it.

When things are tough, we tend to want to flee, but, we must remember that God will give us a way of escape that is stamped with His approval and blessing, if we will wait upon The Lord.

Moving to the mountains sounds cool, but is it what God is advising? Walking away from your house, sounds like a two-fold option because it clears you of the burden of the house, plus it forces your "very longggggggg-time leech of a roommate" to clear out, but is it what God is leading you to do?

Katniss, I know how much you love your dogs, and how you despise confronting your roommate and kicking him out (even though you have been long-suffering concerning him -- way more long-suffering than is beneficial to anyone -- including yourself). But, remember...God loves you and He knows what is best for you. Running without purpose or direction tends to fill us with regret at first struggle, and sadly can lead to even more chaotic living.

As Dema adviced, Pray! Pray without ceasing. I join also in lifting up prayers to our Lord in the name of Jesus on your behalf. God's will be done.

God bless and keep you, dear.
Love,
Mack

[Katniss]

Thanks y'all. I guess i wasn't clear on my post. I would have to locate places close enough to suit me and i would have to have a job lined up. Was kinda thinking maybe i should research it. I think mainly I'm tired of always being on edge always getting laid off. BTW it wasn't because of my work ethic. Mainly i want stability. Literally everything in my life is up in the air. I'm praying. Trying to. Find peace of heart and mind. I do appreciate the responses i have an interview on Wednesday i think i just need things to not be so. Complicated

[Mackenaw]

Hello Katniss (((hugs)))

I'm glad you reached out and shared what weighs heavy on your mind and heart. It not only helps you to shed some blessed light on it which causes the darkness to fade, but also allows others who also lean on The Lord God Almighty to lift you up in prayer and encourage you. I'm encouraged by you and your faith in The Lord. Thank You Jesus!

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.

Philippians 4:6-7
6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Katniss, He is right there with you, and He loves you. Rest in Him. He is quieting the raging waters right now.

I pray to The Lord on your behalf -- I pray rest, blessed sleep, and answers accompanied by His blessed peace for you in Jesus' holy name. God's will be done.

God bless and keep you.
Love,
Mack

[mlg]

Hi katniss, God sure does love you. He wants good things for you. He wants you to have peace and He wants to provide all of your needs. I pray that He leads you to a job that will offer you stability. Sometimes things happen in our life that we don't understand...sometimes we loose a lot to gain something better. God has a plan for you katniss. Keep seeking His direction and He will not fail you. God has this...God is in control. May you have peace in knowing this.

John 16:33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

Take care