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I am kinda scared to tell this cause some people don't know true forgiveness but please don't hate me. When I was 1-5 I was sexually abused by my father along with my two siblings. I had a sister and a brother only at that time. He even had beat me once I think I was 3. That night my mom recalls him telling her that he had to hit me to get me to shut up cause I was crying. She never thought anything of it cause he had never hit anyone, but the next day my mom gave me a hug and I screamed in pain and she looked under my shirt to find bruises all over my body. My mom and dad got a divorce and I had eliminated myself from my dad's side of our family cause of my hate for him... This was completely wrong but I didn't understand forgiveness. When I got my heart right God had spoken to my heart and told me to forgive my dad next time I saw him so I fasted and prayed that God would let me see him soon. Not even two weeks later my Grandmother on that side died. I went to the viewing scared to death. I did see my dad and told him the hardest thing I have ever had to tell anyone... "I forgive you, I don't ever want you around my kids when I have them though. But I still want a relationship with you. You taught me a lot of good stuff and even showed me what not to do in adulthood so I do still love you."

I am not writing this to incite hatred I just want everyone that has been abused to forgive the abuser. Forgiveness is not stupid it simply says yes you hurt me but in spite of it I still love you. Remember God is love and if you don't forgive God will not forgive you.

Amen!

Glad you shared!

How can that make me hate you? Just make me love you even more to see the struggles you went though and over came through Christ Jesus. Isn't God good!

Glad you found the path to forgiving. It is the way to peace.

onfire

i don't hate you for excercising your God given freedom!!

thats what forgiveness is; its God's way of loosing the hurt that was done to us. God has set in motion this awesome avenue for us to free ourselves from those who have sinned against us ... when you don't forgive, you keep yourself forever bound to those very ones who hurt you.

i'm glad you chose to forgive!!

Onfire
No reason to hate. We all have forgiveness to put forth from hurts and other things that we face. The best part about this story is that you did choose to forgive and to begin to heal from that process.

God Bless You