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[Dora]

I think it's because love hopes they will change this time.
I don't see it as stupid. You're hoping this time will be different.

Sometimes distance will open their eyes.

Praying for you kyteacher.

[Mackenaw]

Hello kyteacher,

God bless you this day.

On July 3rd you said:

I am going to be talking with a counselor on Monday who is a former pastor. I don't now him, but a family member does. He works with an abuse shelter, so I feel that he can at least offer suggestions, options, etc. I think this is the first time in years that I haven't felt completely alone....thanks!!!

Did you go talk to the former pastor/counselor?

I'm praying for you, kyteacher. God's will be done.
God bless you.
In His love,
Sister Mack

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yes, I did. He was helpful in that he had heard it all before. I didn't feel like I was explaining things to someone who had no idea. He was pretty straight forward in that he felt my husband is dangerous. He said that I need to stop saying he's a good dad because if he were, he wouldn't hurt the mother of his children.

He didn't really have any ideas about where I could go other than the shelter where he works. I don't really want to put my children through that.

[Dora]

Praying for God to open the door to a safe haven for you and your children.

Gods will be done in this.

[mlg]

He didn't really have any ideas about where I could go other than the shelter where he works. I don't really want to put my children through that.

My sister don't you think your putting your children through a lot already by allowing them to watch you being hurt?

God will open a door sis, just don't look back so long at the one that is closing that you miss the one that is opening.

Praying for you.

God Bless

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But, I don't see any door opening....... and he just badgers me. Asking me the same questions over and over and over until I say what he wants. He is driving me insane! I cry all the time because I cannot see a clear way out of this mess.

[Dora]

kyteacher during his pushing moments and episodes of anger consider prayer. Pray out loud for God to help you both understand and love each other, for him to take away the anger and pride.
for you.

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I confided in my aunt about what had been going on in my home...the physical and verbal abuse. She, of course, agreed that I should have to live in that environment. However, she lectured me that if I leave, I will suffer financially and emotionally. She went on to say that my children will act out and make bad grades in school because they will be from a broken home. She and I are both teachers...and yes, we see a lot of kids who do act out and do make bad grades. However, I don't feel that my children are destined to behave that way, do you????

[mlg]

No sis, as I left my ex 6 years ago, and my daughter was 8 at the time. She is now 14, and this week she went to cheer camp with her cheer sponsor, and upon her return home, I was told that she was extremely well behaved. My sister, it isn't if you are raising your children solo, that causes them to act out. Raise your children with a loving and God filled environment sis, and you are planting the seeds they need to be good children of the Lord.

luv ya

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Right...and good for her! I'm glad she loves cheerleading.

My boys do very well in school. (despite the strain and stress they experience.) I honestly think they are more likely to act out from being raised in a home where someone thinks it's appropriate to yell and throw things than from being from a divorced home.

[mlg]

Well sis, it can go either way, kids can act out in any kind of home. God gives us children to raise for Him. If you are truly raising your children in His love then you are doing the right thing.

luv ya