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[Robnicmurph]

I am a new member in this, but I am the type of person who doesnt like to talk about my problems. It's finally gotten to the poit that it's eating away at me and making my life miserable. I have always been a people pleaser, but as I've gotten older it's turned iinto a very bad thing.

I don't have much self-confidence, so finding friends is hard for me. I seem to keep finding the guy friends who are fine at first, the decide they'd rather be "friends with benefits". I'm not that type of girl, but I've let myself get put into that type of relationship too many times. It's been about 3 guys over the last few years, so maybe to some people that's not much, but I just know it's too much. Not sex, but still too much.

Allowing them to do this just stems from me not feeling like I'm worth anything, but this has just made it worse. Whether is friends or coworkers, Satan has had a real easy time getting to me and making me believe I don't deserve to be happy.

I am very involved in my church, and help lead the youth group, but I feel like such a fake. I mess up too often and I know it's messing up my witness and example. I guess I'm just looking for verses and advice on how to overcome this, and how to feel like I'm worth something again. I have a amazing family and have just recently expressed my problems and unhappiness to them. They are supportive and are there for me, but you know, it helps to talk to anyone who has gone through this before.

[Timothy]

Welcome to Christianity Oasis, Robnicmurph

I'd like to share this: (Ephesians 2: 4 and 5)
But God,who is rich in mercy, because of His great love with which he loved us,
even when we were dead to trespasses, made us alive together with Christ

May His peace be with you.

Timothy

[Christianity Oasis]

Amen brother ...

Excellent response.

I hope it is HEARD.

Luv ya

[mlg]

Hi RobincMurph,

I think that we often look to the world to find that something that is missing...and hence the changing relationships, the following of paths that are not good for us etc. But in reality...what is missing is that relationship with God that we really need. We can have lots of head knowledge of God...but it's the heart knowledge that He wants us to have. Let Jesus fill that void...let Him be what you seek...and the less the enemy will be able to suck you into the worldly things...it's easier to SEE Satan's ploys by allowing God to be your eyes...

Prayers for you.

Take Care