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[AmorATiJesus]

Hello, I've been married 18 years and i've been a christian for 6 years. My husband does'nt want to go to my church (or any)even thou he claims he is a christian. I notice the problems in my marriage about a year afther we got married. I found the Lord when i was trying to save my marriage, even thou i wasn't a born again christian i believe that the Lord does not aproves devorses. and i wanted to do His will. (what i thaught was his will). I started going to church and the Love of Lord heeled me so much. My Husband is the kind of men that is selfish and think he just perfect. he is arrogant and stuberned and never apoligize for any thing. We dont even have Sex like normal peaple do (1 to 3 times a week) and never had. Its every 2 or 3 mounth just because i make a move and then i feel stupid and sometimes dirty. But this is the good part, he thinks he is a excelent lover. Then add to that, he dosent talk to me, he is always critizing everything i do (for him its never right) he never say when i do something wright but i always know everything i do wrong.I feel ignored, invisble, stupid. I feel that my life is just passing by without enjoing it. My husband doesnt appreciate me and of course give me for grantted. I tell him that he makes me so unhappy and im always sad. But he doesn't care he says " Oh! u r so needy, i love u thats what matter" and he ignores me again. I want to run and leave him but then i cant remarry, that would be a Sin. I feel so deeply hurt that i will never know what it is to be really loved my a man that respect u and Loves the lord as me. We live in peace is not that we scream at each other or anything i'm just so lonely, he is like a dry raisin he dont give love or know how to receive it.we have 3girls, 6,12 and 17 year old. I feel tired and stupid even thou i believe and know that only my Lord can change Him. Please help me, any advise will help. Thank u and God Bless u

[Mackenaw]

Hello AmorATiJesus

God bless you this day, and welcome to Christianity Oasis.

I sorry to hear of the troubles within your marriage and in your relationship with your husband, and I'm lifting you up in prayers to our Lord in the name of Jesus, for comfort and guidance. May God's blessed will be done.

AmorATiJesus, I encourage you to read a blessed study, here on this site, that has helped hundreds of people in seeking The Lord and in building a closer relationship with The Lord. As we grow in our relationship with The Lord: God The Father, God The Son and God The Holy Spirit, so too grows our understanding of His will for us -- opening up our spiritually eyes and ears to Him.

Here is the link to the 14 Day Christian Counseling (CCCC) Study. http://www.christianityoasis.com/CCCC/Forum.htm

God bless and keep you.
In Christ Jesus' love,
Sister Mack