Welcome. There is an excellent study called cccc. If you go to Site Map and then studies you should find it. It is recommended that you journal while you do it and people will write you back.
I don't think the chat room gets used much anymore. But a lot of us do message back and forth quite a lot either in the forums or in the private messaging. To write someone privately, click on her name and then you can read a little bit about her and then you can hit the PM button under her name and write to her. Another good button is on the home page. It is "Read new posts" That's where I saw your post.
Glad you are here.