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[melodyw34]

One month ago my husband of fifteen years moved out and asked me for a divorce. It has been extremely difficult and I am still reeling from the pain. Two days ago I discovered that a woman on facebook is claiming to be in a relationship with my husband. I sent her a message and then closed my facebook account. He laughed when I called him about it. Today I discovered just how often he has been speaking with her over the phone when I checked the phone bill. He started talking to her before he moved out. I don't want to hear her voice but I want to ask her to stop speaking to my husband. I want her to know that she is destroying my marriage. What should I do?

Please pray that God breaks the connection between them and that he makes my husband understand how much pain he is causing his family. And pray for me because I need strength to get through this difficult time.

[Dora]

I know it hurts sis.

Right now what will help your pain is to seek the Lord.

Did you start the link I shared with you in your last thread?

Praying for you. Gods good and perfect will be done.

[xxJILLxx]

I am so sorry for the pain you are going through.

I pray that God will guide you all into His perfect will.

I pray that God will give you the strength to walk through this very hard time of uncertainty.

I pray that He will guide your steps and bring you comfort with His loving arms wrapped around you.

God be with you always and forver, may you feel His presense with you.

In Jesus name i pray
Amen

♥Jill

[Guest]

melody... maybe SHE isn't the one who is destroying your marriage?? You can't always blame the 3rd party for what the responsible party shouldn't be doing... I understand that you do not want to end your marriage and that you want it to keep going... but are you asking what God wants you to do or what you want Him to do for you?? As much as it may hurt, you need to give this marriage up to God.. for Him to do as He wills

[ServeGod]

Moved out asked for divorce......... hey what can i say, be the loyal and obedient wife you have been and give him the divorce.
Seriously, what i can say is i have been there, its not the other woman
she is only playing the game..........you see the devil hates love, and unless your marriage is built on God and the teachings of Christ.., the devil will destroy it......... the world is getting more and more polluted. Christian values are no more. Its spiritual warfare inside unless you give your mind , body and soul to the lord.......Put on your full armour sister. God does not tolerate us worshiping another, and a man defiles the sacred marriage when he takes another.....Do not be angry and bitter that again is victory for the devil....you can only pray for your husband, and trust the lord with your life, he does not abandon us.......
your sister in Christ Nellie

[huelsingbroad]

dear sis, at this time of brokenness, i don't want to burden u as job's friends did. i want to encourage you to look at the ONE who is faithful. God is eternally faithful. Jesus will never leave you, HE will never forsake you, HE will never turn away.
HE knows your tears, pain and sorrow. Now, when you have given your hurts, disappointments, and failures over to HIM, HE will take the pain away. not like some magic pill that overnight you won't hurt anymore, but just as one single drop of water over a long enough period can erode away a rock, the HOLY SPIRIT can and will take the pain, the sting, the woundedness away if you will allow HIM to.
seek HIS will and glory and you will make it through not only this, but every trial tht will come your way.
yours in Christ, huel

[Christnundrconstruxn]

dearest melody,
I am sorry for your pain and yes the devil saw a weakness and he used it
please follow pine, jill and mrskitty's advice.
first and formost seek God's direction above yours and everyone else
praying for you to have healing in this heartbreaking time
may God's will be done and done swiftly and may He ease your pain
God bless
Cuc

[Wendy11]

I know this is way delayed...but I am praying for you.

I have gone thru the same thing. My husband was having an affair with a co-worker. And he wanted a divorce. I fought it at first. than God told me to let him go. So I called my Husband at work and told him that I loved him, and that I thought he was making a huge mistake but it was his mistake to make, and told him again I loved him and would be praying for him.

He came home that night crying saying he was sorry and he wanted our marriage to work and he was devastated for what he put our family through. He rededicated his life to Christ and has been a changed man ever since.

The affair started on our 4 year wedding annivesary in February and ended in June. During the whole affair I was praying and reading the bible and christian marriage books, and prayed for some answers. It was very hard on me and my son who had just turned three then.

I got pregnant in April with our daughter now 4 months....so was even harder to know I was going through this stressful time prego. ended up on weight watch because I was losing to much. was told if I didn't get myself under control it would be devestating tome and my baby. That was not helping.

I know this may not be the same, but just have faith that which ever way it goes God has got you covered. I will be praying for you.

[James.chevallier]

I'm going through the sane thing. All I can do is pray for her in silent and live the life of Christ everyday. I don't even hope/wish that she'll come back or not. I need to seek God, his kingdom, and his righteousness first...and all things shall be mine. I know that it's hard and painful. You mind *might* switch back and forth from living in the presence of God and the negative thoughts. Don't faint or discourage. The blessing is coming through tears and countless of sleepless night is the evident that Jesus is near you. Our God is awesome. Personally, I think if you let go of him and focus on your relationship with God, everything will soon fall in place. Praise the Lord for everything. I give thanks everyday for my fiancé' infidelity, because it really help me improve my relationship with Jesus. I never felt like this before. I no longer suffer from agitation or anxiousness when she disappear at night. Feel free to pour out your feeling here. God has given me such a oppuritnity to face infidelity in marriage for so many time. LOL. Thank the Lord that my trial might be able to help you some how. Oh, one last advice...don't manipulate, but completely surrender to God. Be like Christ...man always find comfort in peace and stability. I'm telling you this out of my experience. The forgiving part is hard but the forget part is harder. As of now, I recoil everytime when my fiancé said something like "you have such a nice voice" or "I miss laying on your arms". If you're going through the same thing as I do, you'll know exactly what I think when she said that. Everyone wants to be special and only one for their spouse. And you will...in his time. Remember this rejection and betrayal. It's the same thing that we all did to Christ. Don't be discourage. You're not alone.

[Dora]

Amen!!!! Glad to have you here James. I hope to see you around the site. You have a lot of wisdom and understanding.