It is really challenging to find the right church. We are all part of the body of Christ. And a church needs different body parts. But ... well sometimes the other body parts are all toned and tanned and.....
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I went to a church where they sang out of tune.
. I only attended once. I'm sure singing out of tune is still a joyful noise to the Lord. And I often sing out of tune to. But the problem is that my ears have pretty close to perfect pitch but my voice box doesn't. Oh no So, I need people who can both sing in tune AND sing louder than me.
Anyway, I found a church where I fit in. Actually, I can hit ten or so notes perfectly. Sometimes I only sing those notes.
I hope that gave you a chuckle. A small church where your kids sit with you wouldn't be a bad thing. Having that community with people I can hug is valuable to me.
But I know it is tough. There are so many people with dubious motives.
But..... a church is a hospital for sinners, not a museum of saints.
Personally, I tend to judge the judger. Thou shalt not judge - does judging the judger count???