Christianity Oasis Forum

[lightswitch4]

Well... I'm only 14 and I know I'm supposed to stay positive, stay strong. Sometimes it's just hard though. I just want to find a true friend... Someone who understands me and cares about me. I know God does and I know He wishes the best for me and I trust Him. But I'm just trying to figure out how to love ME. I want to be happy, have friends, have fun... I don't know what to do though... Sometimes I just feel lost. I try to stay strong but I don't know how to... I know I'm messing up somewhere. I just don't know how.

Like tonight: I tried talking to someone and they just called me weird and walked away...

I just want to be worth something. I want to be happy. I want to have friends, true friends. I want to please God. I want to be better.

I just don't know how

[Maverick_Reborn]

Hi lightswitch4 =) im 15 years old, and I know how it feels when people think ur weird no matter what. Im not sure of wgat to say, but we can be friends. If you need someone to talk to, you xan talk to me. If I dont reply right away, it might be because.of the timezones, since I have to go to school =)

[jimf]

Hi lightswitch4 , Old People like me always seem to want to "give" our advice (mostly just telling you how to live you life). I really hope that these words dont , but be patient with an OLD TIMER, I would like to share something. Not that these mean anything or make me an expert, but I have a 29 , a 26 and a 16 year old, I've worked with kids/youth for about 25 yrs in church and Most important I was once 14. This problem of self esteem and the desire to be part of a group, has and always WILL BE a part of the teenage years. As a matter of fact, no matter how "popular" anyone appears to be ALL OF THEM ARE STRUGGLING with these issues. This is what the WORD says Rom 15:7 ACCEPT one another, then, just as CHRIST ACCEPTED YOU, in order to bring praise to God. Also, Rom 12:16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. WHAT WOULD JESUS DO ? Would He try to hang out with the "popular groups " or would He look for those who needed friends ( AND BECOME THEIR FRIEND) Just like you there are MANY who need friends. WARNING !!!! OLD GEEZER ADVICE COMING !!! Look around at people who need a friend the most and be that friend. You'll NEVER HAVE A SHORTAGE OF FRIENDS. Plus, your gonna find out there are some awesome kids out there, Just give them a chance. GBU " OLD " Jimf

[lightswitch4]

Thank you very much this was encouraging and I appreciate you taking the time to Help me. I'll use your advice. GBU Jim

[gsoul]

Hi Lightswitch 4, I am also a old timer but I can assure you that this is a problem that lots of saints have. I have lived 55 years on this earth and have been struggling with making friends most of those years. One thing that I have noticed that people like you and I sometimes come across as weird because we are trying to hard to be liked and fit in, and that is always a recipe for disaster. Remember you are fearfully and wonderfully made, and God made you the way you are for a reason. I believe that true friendship will come your way if you look in the right places for it. Sometimes by trying to fit into the in crowd we put ourselves in a position that God does not want us to be. I like Jim's advice, by befriending someone who is in a similar situation as you, looking for a friend, you can fulfill what God says in Proverbs 18:24 “A man that hath friends must show himself friendly ".