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[Diane]

I read and prayed for the other posts and mine seems so trivial however God said Ask, so I am asking for prayers for my in laws and my family. We are staying at my 80 something mother in law's home in a tiny two horse town in the midwest. We are not living up to her standards and it is so tense and really uncomfortable for me and my teen age boys because were are not as regimented. I didnt come from a miltary family. So I asked for the rules and got a lot of negative feedback which really hurt my feelings and my one super sensitive son. Its like living with the source of all of my issues with my husband. We are so totally different. I can tolerate the situation however I am not full of peace nor cheery nor talkative like I was last year. I thought everything went so well last year and looked forward to coming back. However, my mother in law told me all the things that we did last year that really bothered her. We didnt put the dirty laundry in the plastic bag. (I told her the reason was that we didnt want to bother her with laundry because it is too much work for her. We brought enough to do our laundry on our return). Then we were not quiet when she was eating breakfast and she wants quiet at her breakfast time. The next thing is that she cleared off shelves for our clothes and we did not put the items on the shelves. Well she had two little shelves so we found it easier to live out of the suit case and we did not do that neatly so that upset her also. Nothing is ever about how glad she is to see us. I had a feeling we shouldnt come and I told my husband but that doesnt mean that he registers what I tell him. I am so triggered about this because it is like my husband pointing out all of our imperfections at home and never seeing the positive. I see why he is that way but how it makes me feel and the reaction from the boys is that we feel super judged as not good and want to get away fast.
My husband wants all of us to be here to interact with his family and the small town life. I respect that and here we are but it hurts. Its not about loving on each other. Its about telling us how my sons hair is too long and we dont eat right and do things the way we should. Yuck!!!!!!!! I am just planning on staying out of their way. We can go to the pool and library and sit in the bedroom. I just feel so under attack and it is so like the part of my husband that really hurts me. Truthfully I am scared that I will not be able to stay married to my husband because we are so different and do not get along. This scenario with his family just makes me even feel more alienated from him. He doesnt even talk with me except to apologize that he got so angry this morning. (Thats the same apology we get almost every day) I have the walls up to keeep from getting hurt more. I am sensitive and do not like to be in the kind of environment with critical people. It just reminds me so much of how I wanted my life to be different and not feel like Im a bad person.
Please ask God to be with all of us.
Thank you
Diane

[Mackenaw]

Hello Diane

I'm sending up prayers to our Lord in the name of Jesus, on behalf of everyone involved. May God's blessed will be done.

I'm not sure how long you are going to be at your mother-in-law's house, but please know that God is with you wherever you are, so just keep reaching for Him, and know He is reaching for you.

God bless and keep you.
Love,
Mack

[Diane]

Thank you. Remembering that God is with me and that you all are praying will sustain me through the next 10 days.
Your prayers are appreciated so much.
Diane