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or should I say "hollow" days, it's creeping up on me again, I just don't want to think of how hard this next month is going to be, 15 years of having my kids and a wife at this time of year to it being so empty and cold, my kids occasionally come over to my house and one of the more recent times my youngest daughter asked if I was going to put up a tree for Christmas..I really wanted to say no because even though it will be great when they are here with me what scares me is all the times I will be sitting there by myself hating where my life is and not wanting to have the joy of this time of year that I used to love.
Please don't get me wrong I will ALWAYS remember the true meaning of thanksgiving and Christmas= to be thankful for all the good things my Lord has provided for us in this world, and the birth of our Savior, but this will be the first year I won't be constantly surrounded by family.
so I guess I'm asking that those who have family give them that extra hug for me because you just don't realize how quick it can all be torn away, and please as you will notice in any of my post when you use the Lord's name or Christ please capitalize and don't allow this world to take what we love and change it as with x-mas and happy holidays, Happy Thanksgiving, Merry CHRISTmas and a Happy New Year is how I choose, and I won't be buying a "holiday" tree I will find a store selling CHRISTmas TREES...can I get an amen!!
God bless all

Hello Construxn

God bless you this day.

Be sure to come on by here, Christianity Oasis, tomorrow. There will be many gathered here, on and off all day, so you'll not be alone and can even be the someone on the other end of the net that another is hoping to find so they are not alone either.

God is Good!!!

See you then, Construxn.

God bless and keep you.
In Christ Jesus' love,
Sister Mack

I really wanted to say no because even though it will be great when they are here with me what scares me is all the times I will be sitting there by myself hating where my life is and not wanting to have the joy of this time of year that I used to love.

I think the key here is your HATING where your life is and NOT WANTING to have the joy you used to. It is a season in your life and will not last. I am new to this renewing my mind endeavor, but I can say that those are not thoughts to dwell on. Yes, it will be different this year. Yes, you have many lovely memories - thank God for that! But, please, I beg you, verbally CHOOSE to reject those feelings of self-pity. It's not easy. In their place, CHOOSE to embrace Jesus and what He has done for you and let Him love you. Actively do something for someone else. Write a note of encouragement to someone. Lift up a prayer for those your thoughts may come against. Ask Jesus to help you see things from His perspective. Pray for others here on this site.

Father, I pray You will give CUC a new outlook; a Heavenly perspective. I ask that You encourage Him in Jesus. Enable him to crucify the thoughts that would stir up negative emotions and fill his mouth with praise to You for what he has had in the past and what he will have in the future. Remind him that this world is not our home and we look forward to being in Your presence for enternity where there is no pain, sadness, disease or suffering. To You be the glory, Almighty God! Amen.

Brother Christian,I cannot imagine how difficult it must be for you. Sometimes its too much to bear to think of how much people are hurting and lonely and missing their loved ones, especially around the holidays.

Thank you for reminding me how precious family and friends are. I send a hug for you too brother

Hoping you will spend a bit of your holiday season here with your Oasis friends. And even though you dont have them around as much as you used to, when you do get the opportunity, just love on your little ones enough to last till the next time you get to be with em.

Blessings to you and Merry CHRISTmas

I first should say THANK YOU!!
I have to say it was not too bad, I had a moment when I went to communion and realized I was there by myself for the first time during this special time, the hardest part was hiding the tears from my kids who were in a row 2 rows behind me with their mother, then my son came to my house and spent the night and we got up and went and picked up my youngest daughter and went to my sisters for thanksgiving my oldest daughter and wife stopped by to say hi to everyone, I had a moment now and then but it was a good day and I thank the good Lord for it
dearest lizzie and mack, you two have been there for me on so many occassions I just wanted to say...thank you
also wanted to thank lizzie for the hug it felt wonderful
dabs316 yes you are right but it is hard and I do actively do things at my church such as helping with our food pantry and we just handed out a whole lot of thanksgiving baskets to families in need
as for the negitive feelings I do pretty good but I have my moments but I do not dwell on them, but I'm not the typical man that just lets things roll off, I have a tender heart which I use to think was a curse but since have realized that is one of the things that makes me who God made me
and as for praying for those here I do that most days (not as much as I need to but I do acomplish it)
God bless and thank you all
Cuc

Cuc~

Great to hear it didn't go as you thought it would... It's amazing how the Lord comes along and SHOWS us that HE is STILL IN CONTROL ... even when we aren't!

Believe it or not.. that was just the BEGINNING of your healing that the Lord is doing for you everyday. The Holidays are the hardest to many people for many reasons... but you have been shown from the Lord that He is in EVERYDAY not just Holidays and special days. PTL!!!

If you would have listened to satan when he was trying to hinder you in going to communion and to your families house... look what blessings you would have missed! One more VICTORY WON!!! Many more to go!

Praying for you always and just keep seeing the GOOD through the BAD and you WILL see all the wonderful things GOD will be rewarding you with.

Love & Prayers in Christ,
Linda...

P.S. AMEN to NOT using the worlds view of our PRECIOUS LORDS NAMES OR HOLIDAYS... NO xmas for me... ALWAYS CHRISTMAS... AMEN!