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Hey ya'll! I have finally gotten moved and back online. My friend ex roommate no longer lives with me. I had thought i would be happy, but i find myself sad. I love my house. What i really wanted was a home. I have my animals but the family is fussing about them being in the house, well its my house so i do what i want! I haven't really gotten any company. Family has come over to help fix some stuff. Mostly though i am alone. I find myself missing my ex roommate. I think just having someone to talk to, someone to come home to is a nice thing. I haven't forgotten the not so good stuff from living with him, but i have found myself to be getting more and more depressed. I have to make myself get up to go to work. I just don't understand why i can be so sad. Ok guess i have groaned enough.

Hello Goldie

I'm glad to hear from you.

We turn a house into a home, and sometimes it does take a little time. As far as the animals, yea people have different ideas about pets -- I'm more like you in that my pets are an big part of our lives and I rather enjoy sharing my space with them.

Goldie, as far as your friend who no longer lives with you -- think long about this. I know you love your friend, but from what you regularly reported, you were unevenly yoked -- and he had a lot of negative impact on you. This type of thing happens a lot, and if we are the type that doesn't want to live alone, we can be tempted to wander into other similar situations that are not good for us.

Goldie, God knows you -- He knows your needs and your wants. Seek Him with everything you have, and He will direct you. He'll bring people into your life -- those to be joined with, AND those to minister to and serve on behalf of Him. There is a difference, but God will make a way and give you understanding -- even understanding of the differences. Allow God's will to direct your path.

God bless you, Goldie. I hope we'll see you more often now that you have internet.

Love,
Mack

Well, Goldie Luvs . . .

Mack says *God* knows you > God knows how you really are, what you really need. Talking with your friend did not make you strong so you would now stay clear of depression. God knows what can make you sound and strong so depression can't get the better of you when things and relationships change.

And Mack shares, "if we are the type that doesn't want to live alone, we can be tempted to wander into other similar situations that are not good for us."

This is good . . . I think Mack is saying that even if we get out of what is not a good situation, we still have our own ways which could get us into another situation like that. So, now . . . instead of just rushing to get someone to talk with . . . you can be quiet with God and get wise to whatever is trying to get you to do what isn't really good, then see how God takes you in His peace, and enjoy discovering better. Notice what attacks you when you stop to be quiet with God, and pray against that stuff.

Pets can be easier to get along with, than humans . . . not much need to learn how to love, with pets . . . or with someone who talks our own talk. We need to get into the challenge of finding out how to love *all* people. And with this comes strength against depression. Learning to relate with various Christians and others can make us stronger so depression can't get us. And we need to be able to be quiet so we can connect with God > depression is a trick to scare us away from being quiet . . . for a reason. Boredom and loneliness also can attack us so we are afraid of being quiet. Because, in quietness we can contact with God and enjoy Him with one another, and have sweet victory so problems and dominating emotions can not have power over us.

"And let the peace of God rule in your hearts,
to which also you were called in one body;
and be thankful." (Colossians 3:15)

ty both I feel alot better today. And comfy yes it is important to be quiet and be with God. Ty Mack for the wonderful insight. Yall be awesome for sure!!!

You have a job? That can be a time to be with people. To appreciate what you do have with each one. It can be good to appreciate the little, than to wish for the much

"Let your conduct be without covetousness;

be content with such things as you have.

For He Himself has said,

'I will never leave you nor forsake you.'" (Hebrews 13:5)

Now, this being content with such things as I have may be meant for material things, but I find, for me, I need to be content with whatever I really have with each person > instead of looking for what I want, be busy with loving each one by dealing with what really is in each relationship, and discovering the person and doing all I can to love that person, instead of wishing for what is not there.

What matters is not how much you get from each person, but how much you give in each relationship. Put more into just opening a door for someone, and value each moment God gives you with any person.