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Our abuser may offer financial security. This is often a very important issue for people with young children especially, disabled or older people, maybe it seems worth tolerating some abuse to at least know you can afford to feed and clothe the children, afford medical bills, or at least have a decent standard of living. Many women especially simply do not have the resources to provide for themselves, also, they may not have completed their education or have much work experience due to bringing up children, and do not feel that they will be able to find work given their emotional and mental state and responsibilities toward any dependants.

Where do you go? There may not be Refuge facilities near-by, you may not have a supportive family or friends who can put you up, and you may not be able to afford a place of your own. Especially if your partner has been violent, has threatened to hurt you or the children, it may seem safer to stay put than risk angering him more by trying to leave.



but...know this, that God said he will always give us a way of escape....He heard the cry come up from the children of Israel didn't he...under their hard task master? so He will deliver us from our hard task master..just go the way he leads you, remember His ways and thoughts are higher than ours..the answer may not come in the way you think it will..but He loves you and and will deliver you..in the power of His might..not by ours..love ya's

Oh, mum! I am afraid this may be a major reason why people stay in abusive relationships. The abuse might be scary and horrible, but the unknown is also scary. When you are in the relationship, you still have a certain sense of security. Unfortunately, the consequences can be severe or fatal.

I am living proof that you can get away, have limited finances, no vehicle, and make it! It took years of hard work to get it all together, but it was very worthwhile. God helped me through every step. Praise to HIM!

God bless and protect everyone!