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Mental, psychological, or emotional abuse can be verbal or nonverbal. Verbal or nonverbal abuse of a spouse or intimate partner consists of more subtle actions or behaviors than physical abuse.
While physical abuse might seem worse, the scars of verbal and emotional abuse are deep. Studies show that verbal or nonverbal abuse can be much more emotionally damaging than physical abuse.

Since, in the majority of cases, people who indulge in verbal abuse are selective about whom they abuse,
many people are surprised to hear that someone is experiencing on-going and periodic abuse from someone they know and have always seen as nice and friendly. Nice and Friendly

Verbal abuse so controls ones mind that some women who have left a verbally and sometimes physically abusive relationship twenty or more years ago still find themselves wondering, "Maybe there's something I could have done...," or, "Maybe if I'd tried to explain just one more time my relationship would have gotten better."
Very often the people who find themselves the target of controlling behaviors can't comprehend that anyone would want to control them so they try to be nice. This doesn't work. You can't stop a rapist by being extra nice.

Through the eyes of the abuser, even the victim's own opinions are seen as opposition. Thousands of battered people have said that the hurt of verbal abuse lasted longer than the bruises of physical abuse. Verbal abuse is a kind of violence that creates a deep emotional pain and mental anguish that can be immobilizing.

However..there is life after abuse...God has the final say..we can over come all the past and the hurt it brings...but healing is needed...we need the love and Grace of our lord...
He is well able to heal us if we are willing to let go and let Him have His way..
It is not easy my friends..thats why we are here to support one another...

love ya's