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Stepping Stone #1
First step is to write down anything in my thoughts now / today ...any concern, questions or comments anything in mind and to also to put down the original that bothering my mind or my whole being.

Here it goes...I feel that everything is falling apart. I lost my child near a decade ago and just not a year ago i lost my partner too. Single parenting these children is very hard. Most times I think that I haven't mourn my partner enough cos of all tasks ahead of me. I will cry but in silent cos I don't want my children to feel that im weak.

I feel that im isolating myself from everyone. and im putting on weighs and don't feel like going anywhere. Im getting angry very easily and not interested in getting together with my friends and families.

Feeling helpless always, at first i will feel very sick inside me thinking that Iwon't have enough money to pay the bills but its always paid. But that feeling is making me feel sick most of the time and I don't know why.

Lonely and missing my love ones is so hurtful and most time i wish it will go away soon. I have the understanding that it will go aways but i wish it can go away soon. Don't wish that feeling on anyone else.

I go to church every Sunday and very strong with my faith but that don't take my pain away. Maybe its a common thing to happen to anyone in this situation but im just hoping that it might help kill the time and put my thoughts into words. And above all I understand that your prayer will help me go through this steps.

Thank you
Dove

Oh, honey. I'm so sorry for your pain. That is so hard. There is nothing, nothing harder than losing a child. And then being alone to be strong as you are now. I agree you don't want to be weepy and sad all the time around your children, but letting them know it is okay to miss their dad is important. And that you miss him too. Letting them know how deeply you loved him.

Accepting help can bless the giver. Sometimes we forget that letting others help can be a blessing to them. But then, some of us heal by having time away from others. And healing does take time. You might take a minute to pray about letting others in, letting them help - see if it is right for you. Are you rejecting help out of pride? Or out of the need for what solitude you can get?

I'm so sorry for your loss.