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I feel so blessed to have found this site. God knew just what I needed. I am a little embarrassed to share all that I am going through but I know I would be willing to help carry someone else's burdens also. I am writing in a category form so you will get a little bit of my background and then I will tie it all in together.

MYSELF: I have been married for 39 years and we have 3 grown children and one special needs little girl named Kylie who we adopted. I am 55 years of age so I am up there as far as raising another child. I struggle with obesity, arthritis, underactive thyroid.

GOD: I was raised as one of Jehovah's Witnesses and was married in their kingdom Hall and we both raised our three older children that way until our youngest was aprox 16. My Husband had stopped attending but I kept going. I knew something was missing in my life but just could not find out what. One day I went to the Sunday Meeting and prayed to the only God I knew , Jehovah and asked Him to please show me what it was I needed . I ended up leaving early to never go back. I knew this was not what I needed. A wonderful elderly couple brought me to the Lord. So I was in my late 30's when I found the TRUE GOD. My Husband also became a believer along with our three children.

FAMILY: As I have shared we adopted little Kylie, she is now 11 years old and is a special needs little girl. This has played havoc in our marriage as we just can't seem to get on the same page about how to raise her. All the counselors and therapists have said that she would do better in a very structured environment such as a Group Home. We have opted not to do this and to try to build that structure here at home because she would not receive the Love and Nurturing in a Group Home. Because of this decision it has been so hard. We made a promise to raise her up in the Lord.

SUMMARY: So this just touches just the surface. There are so many feelings, emotions, thoughts and actions that are all wrapped up in all of this. I have responded in anger, frustration and have even felt hatred at times. I have not always been loving and kind ( although not abusive) I know right now I need to get right with God and allow Him to free me from my obesity. I have a published book out there about obesity so you would think I would follow my own advice. Well that is enough for today. I will write again on tomorrow

I'm glad you are here.

If you are unable to handle the little girl, then you need to know there is no shame in letting her go. It is important that you have peace with God in whatever course you take. Sometimes God is really hard to understand. 95000151423890 there is a blessing on something and then there is not.

Don't assume that you HAVE to do this. And also don't assume that you HAVE to do it a certain way.

If your husband is telling you how to handle things - but you are the one having to handle them while he is at work - well, that just isn't fair

I'm not trying to tell you to give up the little girl. I AM trying to tell you that you have many, many choices. You can go to counseling and find another way to handle the situation, you can put her in a group home and be her grandparents - that might be a good option. There are many other options. We generally put ourselves in boxes - God seldom puts us there.

Hello LeeAnn

God bless you this day.

I'm so glad to see you posting, and I hope this means you have begun the CCCC Study that I shared about in our last communication.

While my situation is different than yours, I know what it is like to live with and care for others that have special needs and whose ability to understand is limited or is different from our own. It can be very overwhelming at times for the caregiver...not to mention the physical exhaustion that comes with it, too. (((hugs))) God bless you and your husband and your daughter.

I look forward to getting to know you, and consider it a privilege to pray for you and your family, and to share an encouraging Word with you, sister in Christ.

Prayers continue to rise to our Lord in the name of Jesus on your behalf. May God's blessed and perfect will be done.

God bless and keep you, LeeAnn.
In Christ Jesus' love,
Sister Mack