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I have been struggling with learning to forgive. I know if I can't forgive then God can't forgive me. But the thoughts keep going thru my head and I keep remembering . I was an abused child and I have such a hard time forgiving my step mother. Also I keep asking the question how God could take my mother from me when I was only a year and a half old. Even though I really never knew her now that I am older I seem lately to miss her so deeply and It seems to be almost like I am mourning her. I know I need to keep praying and asking for God's help but I feel so alone. I just wish I could have a mother figure to guide me. But I do know that God loves me I know this from Jon 3:16. God Bless Everyone and please pray for me to learn Forgivness.

Hello Pray4me2

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God bless and keep you, Pray4me2.
In Christ Jesus' love,
Sister Mack

Hi Pray4me2, welcome to the counseling program and the Oasis. Oh forgiveness...it's certainly hard to do....we often have a hard time with this...because we feel we are justified to carry around our anger and sadness for what others have done to us....but ultimately carrying around all that anger and sadness...only brings us more anger and sadness....forgiveness is the only way to set ourselves free from the burden...to let it go and give it over to God...then you will be free...and you will find the joy again that you seek! It's there...just remember forgiveness in no way means what was done to you was right...it just means that you are no longer going to allow what was done to you to keep you in bondage...it's ok to let it go...in fact it's the only way...you can do this...keep working at it.

Praying for you and welcome again

Take care

Thank You ! I will take your advice and I will do the study on the holy spirit. God Bless Everyone!

*Hug* I'm glad to hear you are doing the study. They are awesome!

I'm sorry for your pain. I too asked God why He allowed the pain that I went through. We may never know. Letting go of the need to know brings peace and a closeness to God.

Praying that God of hope brings you peace and joy despite His answers to your questions and those questions He chooses not to answer just yet. I pray God opens your spirit to receive all the wonderful gifts He desires to give to you.

For 11 yrs, i have struggled soooo hard on the word FORGIVENESS. yes, you're right, when you said i felt justified of my hidden anger and hatred because of what they did to me. I hated my in laws because of the humiliation they did to me, and i hated the man i loved so much (my own husband) for favoring them. It was a heavy load to carry, and something was lacking within me. I felt unfulfilled, i easily get hurt and irritable, though my husband and me have been together caring for each other, loving each other but i always quarreled him each time i would hear a word that would irritate me. We lived in the slums with my family. Life was soooo hard. Going to the doctors and laboratory examinations in hospitals, on my heatlh drained our small hand to mouth finances and we were filled with various debts.

until the day that the load became too heavy that i asked the Lord's grace and mercy on my poor lost emotions and soul.
Until the day that i talked to my husband and i asked forgiveness for hating him, and told him i have forgiven him and my in laws, we held hands and i confessed to God my hatred and anger. Happy days came, my emotions were healed

In less than a year, miracles came forth to my life and family. Our finances were healed. My husband whose promotion were witheld for many yrs., he was promoted in a miraculous way to a police colonel.
I started hearing clearly the still small voice of the Holy Spirit. The Lord by His grace restored me to the ministry pastoring the church and graciously put me and my husband to the ministry of running christian missionary schools.
Each time the enemy whispers to me and reminds me of the pains of the past to get back to that situation, i would ask the grace of God........ Jesus is the healer of broken hearts..... for this is the day that the Lord has made, we will rejooice and be glad in it. For God always causeth us to triumph in Christ Jesus our Lord..... for God shall bruised Satan under your feet shortly, the grace of our Lord Jesus christ be with you all amen. May the Lord bless those who are hurting and bless this site and her crew in Jesus name.