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Almost 5 years ago I met this guy who seemed to be everything that I needed and wanted. Eventually we ended up losing contact but he would always reach out to me every once in a while. Once I joined facebook I ended up getting back into contact with him. About two years ago we begin to pick back up. Earlier this year we decided that we would try to pursue a relationship but we would take our time. We established our relationship on May 12, 2012. We always enjoyed each other's company and we rarely had confusion. I would often try and sike myself out of the relationship but things continue to progress. About 3 weeks ago everything changed within a matter of minute. I had left my cell phone at his place and while he attempted to call my parents a text came through from a friend of mine. The text simply stated my nickname. But 3 months prior he had asked me on a date. I never replied. I explained to my boyfriend that he was an old classmate and there was nothing to it. Then he began to ask me about another guy that I had been texting months earlier . I explained to him that there was nothing incriminating in that conversation and that guy was like practically family to me. My boyfriend simply stated "I just don't know anymore." I had stated to a friend that he felt as though I was the one he could trust with anything. That was three weeks ago and he has said little of nothing to me since. I am beyond hurt. I have been completely abandoned. It's as if he has fallen from the face of the earth. I'm not coping very well. I've seeked counseling, praying, talking to God. I just cannot remain in this state of despair and depression. I have asked to be delivered from this but it's like I still find myself crying. I have since questioned if this man has ever truly cared or loved me.

Hello Missella

Welcome aboard that Oasis , I am glad you heard Hid lead and decided to come here . No one gets her by "mistake" .

It has always been a sad situation when people take any circumstance and make anything they want with it WITHOUT "investigating" , so to speak . And some even ask for "explanations" with their minds already made up of not believing whatever the answer they may receive .

But ... That (whatever their decision) is not , in reality , our problem is it ? ... We know the truth , the way things are and we stand by that truth .

The problem I faced in situations like that is the actual suspicion , like "Questioning my integrity" and "Why are they doing that ?"

On this 14 day journey you are on , will help put everything in perspective for you , as far as your own doubts about yourself are concerned .... not their's .


Keep up the good work , there'll be others to offer theit help , suggestions and support , don't just take my words for it .

Once again , welcome aboard , hoping to hear more from you .


Luv ya
In Christ , our Lord
vahn

Hi! I'm glad you've found the Oasis! This program will help you deal with this hurt. Believe me, honey, I know this to be true. I just finished step 14 and even in these short 2 weeks I have learned sooooo much. God bless!

Thanks so much for the support guys!!! God Bless

Hello Missella,
Welcome to the Oasis, I'm sorry you are having these issues of the heart.
It is a bad thing in todays world and it is only getting worse, I'm speaking of trust issues and the reasons for them
Just from what I read of your post I feel this man has been done wrong in the past by a cheating woman and because of that past he has carried it into your relationship, but you must not allow this to destroy you if it of God then you will find your way back into his heart if not then count it as not God given and allow your heart to heal, I delt with the loss of a 14 year marriage and weather I done all I could and how I failed but have since come to the realization that it was not meant to be any more and I had done all I could to save it, but it was not what was suppose to be.
and now I am healing of the pain and loneliness, the divorce is in the works and I wait for what God has for me in His works
I had even met one or two hopefuls but I put it to God if it is of HIS will then make it happen if not I will follow His lead
( I didn't say I would understand it but follow it) they didn't happen.
This is what I ask you do, Go to God and ask He show you the path and lead you and let Him know you are willing to wait for His direction.
while doing this do as the others here have suggested do the 14 day study challenge as well as look at the other studies and counseling pages they will help to clarify a lot in your life right now
Most importantly know you are NOT alone there are so many here wanting and willing to help you and pray with and for you.
God bless
Cuc

Thanks you soooo much! That is exactly what I will do and your words has truly comforted me and confirmed to me (yet again). And I feel as though I am ready to do just that. I can no longer carry this burden. You guys have truly been a blessing to me. God Bless :-)