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This step seemed to not be very clear yet I think that was its intention. The topic of blame and other weeds that have deep roots in my life. I want to name the weeds that I need removed: Fear or doubt, Fear my marriage is over with, fear I will always be alone, fear I won't be able to live in my own apartment when child support and alimony kicks in, I blame my wife for giving up, It is all my fault though, I blame her family for separating my marriage, I doubt the power of God can work in my life, I doubt that leaving it to God will be best and that I can fix things. All these deep roots I ask for the father to remove. Pull them up to the very tip of their tap root. These roots have taken place but I wonder what seeds may there be yet to sprout? It is hard to detect a weed in the seed stage. I must remain persistent on this path in order to identify seeds before they sprout. Or I must learn to identify the sprouts pull them as soon as they sprout.

When they sprout, pull them. Might have to pull em again.

Luv ya

Real

Hello Brother!!
some of what I say may not be what you wanna hear but for sure it is truth

I hear SSSOOOOO MUCH of my story in you

Fear my marriage is over with, fear I will always be alone, fear I won't be able to live in my own apartment when child support and alimony kicks in, I blame my wife for giving up, It is all my fault though, I blame her family for separating my marriage, I doubt the power of God can work in my life, I doubt that leaving it to God will be best and that I can fix things.

Yes my marriage did end BUT only because God allowed it! (Please do not misunderstand I know God wants marriage to always prevail but only if it is meant to be)I know it sadden His heart more than mine BUT it must not have been meant to be any longer.
I have been in my own place for almost 2 years, and she has become very understanding that I don't make much.
Yes I blame my wife for giving up BUT I am to blame as of WHY she gave up. and yes it is ALL my fault
She says no one influenced her choice but I don't believe that, because of a few family members and at least one friend
BUT I do not blame them for this I blame her for allowing them to get into her mind....BUT ALL yes I said ALL is forgiven, why because it will do NO good to hold that grudge and as I said if God meant for us to continue then we would have endured all.
Yes I have doubts of weather God will give me the power to change and become the man He created BUT I know that is satan trying to create that doubt and I WILL NOT BE SWAYED!!!!
We as men think "we" have to fix everything BUT truth is sometimes we have to leave things alone for them to be fixed.

Dear Brother I am very lonely of this earth BUT I'm never alone, I have a broken down car and a fallin apart truck BUT God sees to it I have transportation, everytime she has come to me for money I have been blessed enough to be able to give it to her, yes she gave up on me BUT we remain friends and are more civil with each other than most ANY seperated or divorced couples, Yes I am a VERY broken man BUT I keep my faith that one day I will be as He created me to be and yes I need fixing in my life and I need to do my part but I also know when it is time He WILL restore me!!!
May God bless you brother and please remember we are all here anytime you need us ( I know what you are feeling)
hang on to His promises!!
Cuc

Hi there,
The Book of Psalms is filled with"Fret Not".
I am not good at this even though I fret not because i do not have transportation; having to rely on others. ( Wife is has been wonderful). I fret not because I do not have a job to go to because of my medical condition.
These verses hit me as I began to reply............


Colossians 3

1 If then ye were raised together with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated on the right hand of God.

2 Set your mind on the things that are above, not on the things that are upon the earth.

3 For ye died, and your life is hid with Christ in God.

4 When Christ, who is our life, shall be manifested, then shall ye also with him be manifested in glory.

5 Put to death therefore your members which are upon the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry;

6 for which things' sake cometh the wrath of God upon the sons of disobedience:

7 wherein ye also once walked, when ye lived in these things;

8 but now do ye also put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, railing, shameful speaking out of your mouth:

9 lie not one to another; seeing that ye have put off the old man with his doings,

10 and have put on the new man, that is being renewed unto knowledge after the image of him that created him:

11 where there cannot be Greek and Jew, circumcision and uncircumcision, barbarian, Scythian, bondman, freeman; but Christ is all, and in all.

12 Put on therefore, as God's elect, holy and beloved, a heart of compassion, kindness, lowliness, meekness, longsuffering;

13 forbearing one another, and forgiving each other, if any man have a complaint against any; even as the Lord forgave you, so also do ye:

14 and above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfectness.

15 And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to the which also ye were called in one body; and be ye thankful.

16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly; in all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts unto God.

17 And whatsoever ye do, in word or in deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

I can say the Lord knows what we go through and I usually can find someone worst off than myself. And sometimes I just roll in my own mistakes, misdeeds, things I should not have ect

The Holy Words above are rich in wisdom and can set one's sights to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
I know I do not stand in your shoes at this moment, but will say I feel as you do sometimes as I am very much a loner. Not good, I know.
As we grow we learn to pull that same weed again just as I read peoples post here to remind me of that stone to stand on.
We all slip off these stones at times but they get fewer apart.( May Grace Abound)?
I have climbed into bed with sadness for days at a time. I seek, I search; it's me.

I am responsible of how I feel that day. I forget this often.
I am human too traveling down this rocky road and looking back, God took care of them. It is because I let Him.

I've rambled enough, just wanted to say I feel what you feel at times.
God is Real and His ways are higher than ours.

May peace and healing begin for all who this may apply to ; including self.

GBU !

Real