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I thought i was a strong women, giving myself to God, to my husband to my children and being always involved with the things of God, which i have always loved to do. Its always made me feel close to him. A couple of months ago I found out that my husband cheated on me and has a 1yr old daughter. We've been married for 23 yrs coming this May. Thats a life time, im only 40. I asked him to leave to give me time to think and asked him to seek God and some counseling and neither has he done. He wants to come home but not enough to seek counseling. I am so lost, i have always felt the burden that he did not keep by leading this family. I have always had to work hard and keep my family together. I do love him still, but must love myself more. I have asked God to give me guidance and am struggling, because i dont know what God wants me to do nor what i want to do. I guess if I could see some kind of persistance on my husband seeking to make it work i could see if i would be willing to make it work, but completely start over. Everything I thought we had turned into lies and was completely shattered. I took his critizim and bad temper trying to be a good wife but i wont anymore. but i still feel so lost, lonely and afraid. To add to this I might be pregnant. What is God telling me?

Dearest Troubledheart,
First welcome to the Oasis, next I don't think you have asked the unreasonable.
I pray God answers your needs in this troubled time and your husband's eyes are opened and your marriage be healed
and you are treated as a gift from God, not with critizim and anger but love and respect.
God bless you and your husband
Cuc

Hello troubledheart

First and foremost , please allow me to welcome you , here , where many of us chose to call "Spiritual Hospital" , (For , well people don't need to hear what The Doctor has to say , right ? ) , of course you know who the Doctor is that I am reffering to .

The way I'm reading your post , I see a multiple issues that need to be dealt with , and you are in the perfect place for it ,and , I may add , you have , whether you know it or not , solved half of your "issues" already by just simply coming here , seeking guidance and counseling through Christian channels .

By far , and by no means , I am writing all this as a means of "counseling " . Just merely seeking to be of utmost help to my Lord , our Heavenly Father's children -my siblings , for I can only see His Mighty Works through the healings of others .

Dear sister , I see the answer to some of your trials and hardship , including confusion , in your own post .

Let us start with ...

What is God telling me?

Implication ? ... You're listening to Him , what a great joy to my heart that brings . ..... I mean listen to yourself , amidst all that is going on in your life today you're reaching for His voice !!!

And you know what else ? ...

i dont know what God wants me to do nor what i want to do.

Isn't it obvious that what YOU want to do is , to do what HE wants you to do ?
This 14 step will help you do just that , to be able to hear His voice amidst all the "noise & clatter" that your husband is making ... to clear away all the debris that is blocking you from the Son-Light of His Spirit .

You were very wise to ask for time from your husband to sort things out , and come to the Truth about all this , then making your final decission and to be able to , by then gained enough courage and faith to tell your husband where he belongs .

Keep up the good work sis ... hope to see you often .

Luv
In Christ , our Lord
vahn

I know it must be such a difficult time for you. Fearful, painful, and confusing. May God bring you peace and comfort as well as direction. You were very strong to request time to figure this out.