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I am having a really hard time right now understanding how I got where I am at in my marriage. Divorce is in the process and I can't understand how we got here. It hurts so bad. When we got married I believed that God had brought the two of us together and that it was blessed and now seven years later it is over and I don't know why. When he moved out over a year ago saying that it would be temporary. He needed to get his head straight and within two weeks he had a much younger woman moving in with him which I didn't find out till later. When that relationship started falling apart he told me about her. He is now with another woman and has been with her for at least 6 months I figured this one out on my own, and recently asked for a divorce. Through out this whole time and the other women and even after asking for the divorce he keeps saying that all roads lead back to me. I don't understand. I am so confused about this whole thing. I do know that I am on a new journey in my life and I am seeking to get my faith back and to become a better child of God. And I stumbled on to Christianity Oasis on the Internet and I am so thankful. I keep pressing forward each and every day. I know I am heading in the right direction.

I'm glad you are here sis. I feel your pain. And I am lifting you up in prayer. May Gods good and perfect will be done in your life. May you feel His spirit ever so close and find comfort in Him.

God loves you and so do I.

Oft times God moves things around in our lives in an attempt to grasp our attention, as to have us choose a different path. But, sometimes ... We are addicted to the way things are and the CHANGE seems so very frightening. So, we stay the course, hoping things will just return to the way it was as to keep our lil comfy zone.

But, what IF ... The way it was, is WRONG and God knows it and wants what is best for His precious child?

Your shared words reveal that God has great plans for you.

CHOOSE the CHANGE.

Choosing to put GOD as your FIRST Love will bring forth that which your soul seeks.

Whether it be this man returning to a RENEWED you or whether God provides another or whether God chooses for you to use your experience to help others, OR ....... Well, now THAT is a true adventure, is it not?

Let go and let God and then ... Stay the NEW course.


Luv ya

If we didn't have change we wouldn't have butterflies...I hope that you find your wings my sister and that you fly, fly, fly into the arms of Jesus. I too have been where you are...my my how I thought it was the end...but as time has moved on and God's plans have been revealed...I found it was just the beginning...don't be afraid...God is in control. His plans for you are wonderful...and He wants you to be blessed with the best.

Praying for you.

Take care and God Bless

Thank you all for your kind and encouraging words. It gives me something to focus on and a guiding light to follow. God Bless each of you.

Stepping Stone 2
After reading this stepping stone, I have realized that I have way to many weeds in my garden and it is time to start renewing my garden. I have let to much stuff in and it has choked out the good stuff. So, for me the next step is to weed, plant, renew, and refresh my faith and get this garden in better shape so that I can finish putting in the rest of the stepping stones.

I have just let to much into my mind and let it take over my life. I let these things control me for way to long. It is time for me to start clearing out what is keeping me is the place of misery, dreed, and worry. I am taking back my life and starting over on a new path and cleaning this place up it really needs a good cleaning.

Woo hoo, thata girl... yank out those weeds
sunshine, you will reach a place where the study will get hard for you but don't stop... keep pushing thru because once you get over that hump, you will understand better. We are here for you

Stepping Stone # 3

I know that God does forgive all. This step is harder because I am not sure how to forgive myself for wrongs that I have done in my life. And how do I accept God's Grace if I haven't been able to completly forgive myself? I stepped away from my faith almost 16 years ago when my father died. I was so angry at God for taking my father away at such a young age, that I didn't talk to him for a very long time. then before I got married I started talking to God again, praying, and studying his word.

When my marriage turned the wrong turn I was angry but I didn't stop talking, or praying but I stopped studying until Nov of 2010 when my step dad was diagnosed with cancer and died the 14th of Dec. I was a wake up call that I needed to get my faith, life and by trust in God back on the right track or I would be lost forever if I didn't do something and soon. So that is when I started searching, reading, for a place that I felt welcome and also a part of a family. I believe that is why I was led here. And here I will stay because I feel like I am home.

Hi Sunshine! Im so glad the Lord led you here....and make no mistake, He heard your heart, knows what you need and did lead you hear for a reason. You arent here by chance or accident. During your journey here in the CCCC steps, let Him show you who He sees you to be. There is much He wants to do in you and through you. Before you are a wife, a mother, whatever you are in your life, you are His child. He has had plans for your life...to bless you, and to be used as a vessel for His glory. Sometimes we forget our first love....or, we put Him on the back burner and hope we are doing what He wants us to do....Sis, let Him work in your life to heal the places that need healing, grow the places that need growing. Pray for your husband, but let God show you who you are in Him alone. You will be that much more able to see His will for your life and better able to handle whatever it is the Lord has planned for you..and much happier and more at peace.


Praying for you through this. May His perfect will be done. Im looking forward to what He is going to do in you through this.

God bless you, my sister in Jesus.

In Jesus,
love momo

Hello again

Forgiving ourselves is usually more difficult than just about any other part of the healing process. It's because we want to listen to the whispers that the enemy throws our direction saying you are to blame, you bad bad this and that...but those are just lies hun...lies the enemy uses to keep you apart from God...time to throw away those lies and accept the truth..Jesus loves you...you are forgiven...the past is the past and can't harm you any longer...and today is a new day and God's grace is new...and you are starting a new life...a new you...with Jesus as your love and your guide.

Take care

Stepping Stone #4

This stone is going to take a lot of work. I have been holding on to these feeling for a really long time. Thinking that they were gone for them to appear yet once again. I have realized that some of the feeling I have are not my fault, which is what I have thought for years and not been able to forgive myself for. I have been asking the lord how I can forgive myself. And in a different aspect of forgiving myself is to let go of the past hurts and to move forward on the path the God has set for me. It is not going to be easy but in order to heal I have keep pulling the weeds out so that I can place another stone.

Just remember..forgiving does not mean what they did was right...and doesn't mean that it's ok for them to hurt you again...forgiving releases you of the burden of pain you carry around...it means you can have the feeling of joy everyday knowing the past can't hurt you anymore.

Keep working at it.