Christianity Oasis Member Forum & Chat Room

I'm new to the site and had a little difficulty finding this section... GOD has helped me find where I needed to be...My 1st day consisted of being sick and great anticipation at seeing my wife and children again... I miss them more than I could've ever imagined... I want healing so that I may love them as GOD loves us!

Day 2:

Today was a very taxing day...Still being slightly sick I embarked off to work...I learned news from my wife last night before going to bed about a man pursuing her... I didn't think much of it until this morning... Then all I could do was be worried and anxious... Now the situation that we are currently in is all my fault due to my infidelity , but I still hurt... wondering what she said to him and vice versa... I was enraged to hear that he tried to kiss her...! She calmed me down with words of reassurance... I'm a very lucky man that she is still willing to love me even after what I've done... Later me and several coworkers got into a heated discussion about slavery and how our choice to work in these times is the same... I couldn't seem to get my point across... It truly frustrated me that people believe like that... I have since made the trip down to my mother-in-law's home where my wife and kids are staying... My wife had to work so I was unable to see her, but the joy that overcame me at seeing my kids was very uplifting... I can see the hurt I've caused them; though they don't know what is going on... all they know is that they are staying at grandma's home and that they don't see daddy... I anticipate a text from my wife so I can go take her some lunch at her job! Pray for me and my family!

Praying for you wilsdot hang in there.

wilsdot,
You are on the right paths, I am so glad you found this site
Please do yourself a favor give it ALL over to God, you see I let my heart cloud my judgement of things between my wife and me (we separated in january so along came febuary and valentines day but I charge in like the bull in a china shop instead of just giving her reminding hints of how much I loved her and allowing her to heal along with myself it was the "I want it now syndrome" that we all get with God, I guess what I'm saying is instead of opening my heart and mind to God and allowing Him to work I tried to fix everything faster and made things worse.
Do the steps (all of them and any that you feel lead to after that) and read the book, God knows your heart and he will "fix" things In His time and in His way, I pray that you are blessed with a second chance to be the man God wants you to be to your wife and kids
God bless
Cuc

Wilsdot I feel the hurt in your shared words. May you know that God hasn't given up on you or your family. He is the way to healing for all of you. He can bring forgiveness and true love to your marriage. Right now take this time of separation to work on your relationship with the Lord. Make God number one in your life...and make Him first and then He will be able to start a work in you and your marriage.

My prayers are with you. Keep walking through the steps. I encourage you to seek counseling with you and your wife as well...do you have a church that you both attend? Maybe they have a marriage counseling program there? Just some thoughts to help you work on things together as well.

God Bless you

The morning has started off well... I had the opportunity to wake with my wife in my arms and to the sounds of my children... I thank everyone for the help and words of advice that have been given... This is truly a wonderful site...

What a beautiful blessing...may you continue to cherish your wife and the marriage the Lord has bound you together with. She feels your love...and that's what a wife needs most...is to know she is loved by her husband.

I know you have things that you need to continue to work out...I encourage you to keep doing so.

Prayers continue.

God Bless

wilsdot wrote:The morning has started off well... I had the opportunity to wake with my wife in my arms and to the sounds of my children... I thank everyone for the help and words of advice that have been given... This is truly a wonderful site...

Amazing. Praise God! He is so good. He loves us each one so much.

continue to seek Him and His will in your life brother. I'll continue to pray for you and yours.

AMEN brother wil!!!
I know how much that would have meant to me so I am SOOO VERY happy for you, please do not allow satan back in and please continue the steps and read THAT BOOK!!
Just want to give you a glimpse of what could have been I have been separated for a year now and have had no interest in a woman since my wife, don't get me wrong I'm still attracted to women but I was just like you in a lot of ways but destroying my marriage has changed me 100 fold.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE brother stay on track and show your wife she can trust you again that your eyes are for her ONLY!!
God bless brother
keep it up
Cuc