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It has been awhile since I have visited the oasis. 2 years ago I joined when my husband and I were having difficulty due to his sexual addiction. We decided to work it out and went to counseling. To make a long story short he kept doing it and when brought to a point of decision about christ he rejected him. He then spent 3 weeks talking to women trying to decide about our marriage and asked me for a divorce in October of this year. We are now separated. I am sad about the end of the marriage especially since it has been 25 years but I know God is in control. I have prayed for 2 years that God either deliver him or make him leave. I guess I got my answer. I believe God has something better for me and will heal my pain. My husband has blamed everything on me, the relationship and my belief in God. He says his beliefs and mine just don't coincide. What he doesn't realize is that I wouldn't be okay with the things he was doing even if I wasn't a christian. Please pray for me, my children and pray for my husbands salvation.

Hello inneed. I remember you.
Glad you came back.

What a ruff time.
It is uplifting to see you seek God during this time and trusting in His will over your own.

Spend this time getting even closer to Christ. You'll be blessed for it.
Have you started the counseling again?
It may be time.
Things may appear differently this time than they did the last time.

God bless and keep you.
You continue in my prayers.

Hello inneed

Welcome (back) to the Oasis
You're in the right place , (exactly where He wants you to be) and amongst the right people .

I believe you answered to your "situation" yourself ;

I believe God has something better for me and will heal my pain.

keep walking in that direction and the Light becomes brighter , the "past" will take care of itself .

In Brotherhood of Christ our Lord
vahn

Hi inneed...Welcome back sis. i remember you too..and am so glad you have come back. Im praying for you and your husband, too, sis. His will be done in this. Praying for peace for you as well. He is your strength, sis and if He closes the door on this, know He will open another..in His will, His time. Im glad He led you back here. Take this time to let Him do some healing in you. love you and standing with you in prayer in this. His perfect will be done in all things.

in Jesus,
love momo

Hi inneed welcome back to Oasisi.. I have only been here since June so I have not had the pleasure of meeting you. Just keep seeking His face and listening to His word and He will lead you. I will keep you in my prayers

hi inneed... when I was finished reading your post, I just felt freedom for you. You tried and now you can be free to follow God wholeheartedly like you have always wanted to, without restrictions. The healing will come quickly.
So nice meeting you and looking forward to getting to know you,

Thanks to everyone for your prayers and support. I do feel relief and freedom but I feel sad too. I feel like I lost someone to the devil. I really prayed and prayed for his salvation and deliverence. I loved him dearly and know that he will never be happy until he finds Christ. I hurt for my kids (daughter 22 and son 13). I am so unsure of my future. However, I know my savior and I know without a doubt he has a perfect plan for my life and I am going to wait on that plan. Pray that I will hear his voice when he speaks to me and I will follow when he leads me. Pray that I will know it is his plan when it comes.

I am glad to be back! I missed everyone!

hello inneed welcome back to oasis.

remember..Jesus loves youu and ur children soo much..

He loves ur husband too..keep praying for Him..and trust that God is working in his life and urs too..

never lose heart..i know it can be tough to hold on..ur future is safe in God's hands..

keep looking for His face..and allowing His love to flow in ur life..

trust, trust, trust...

love ya !

Yes, it is so hard to remember that people have free will and that they chose to not follow Christ. And remember that we can't save everyone.
I believe that if these people can feel God's love through the Holy Spirit, they would never want to leave.
Maybe you can pray that way for him, that God becomes real to him. That's what I keep doing for my husband.

When someone says they want to hear God, I like to tell them about a book called, He Who Has An Ear by Norman Audi. It is easy to read and understand. I liked it so much that I've sold or given away a couple dozen copies.

inneed, hugs and prayers being sent to you

Now we can rest in Jesus. In spite of all the evil . . .
we can calm down > "Peace, be still!" (in Mark 4:39)
And enjoy the Lord > Jesus is our Groom so more than any husband or wife,
for us to love and enjoy, right now, in spite of all the evil and cheating.
This evil world is so dishonest about money and honey;
but we Christians keep being blessed by You, O LORD, to earn money in an honest way,
in spite of how this evil world does things dishonestly with the financial situation.
Plus, we can have honey, even now while this world has people so they
can not love and share beautifully and sweetly and sensitively > we can.
I was on my bed with my eyes closed, and there was a big spot of yellowish light,
with a thin border of another color with clear lines between the yellow,
the border line, and the surrounding dark.
It was like a leopard spot, except each leopard spot is made of smaller spots.
Then the bright yellow softened maybe with changing of colors of the spot and border line,
and the lines softened so there was blending.
And later I thought . . . the leopard spot changed, to become soft and gentle (o:
So . . . with God it was possible for me to change my spots (o:
I have been like the leopard that is a loner and aggressive,
then becoming a religious perfectionist with such clear lines
drawn between right and wrong, but not being able to share in love >
but now I'd say You, LORD, are correcting and transforming and warming me
to become soft and gentle in love of caring for all people > and this
can spread to make others the same way > how I am can spread, by means of You, God,
how You change others to become also softly tender and caring and feeling for others.
Better, please make me better like this, *please* > I feel how I need to be more genuine and honest
in real love, so this can really spread through me because of You really doing this and
not me just thinking this and wishing this (o:
So, yes, In Need > as you grow in God's love and are corrected (Hebrews 13:1-11) more to be His real example, this can spread to your husband to make him the same way >
. . . . . are you becoming how he needs to become . . . so this can spread to him?
Have you considered 1 Peter 3:1-4?
And 1 Peter 5:3 . . . and even if he does not change to become first about pleasing God . . .
you obeying God will have results in other people >

"'In your seed
. . . . . . . all the nations of the earth shall be blessed,
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . because you have obeyed My voice.'" (Genesis 22:18)

So - - - obedience is key . . . that You, God, know we are really being obedient.

"Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord." (1 Corinthians 15:58)

Now you can be getting into being the example that really is God's example . . . so he can't just slip and sneak into fitting together with you in what is not really in God's love. Matthew 5:46

"And I will very gladly spend and be spent for your souls;
though the more abundantly I love you, the less I am loved."
(2 Corinthians 12:15)

This is our Apostle Paul's example of how to love . . . loving all people, like this. This loving is way beyond how a lot of us have been loving in our marriages and friendships, and this is why our relationships have failed: because they were limited to loving only certain people like husbands, wives, our children, and certain favorite others. And this limited love is weak so we can break down in arguing and complaining and cheating and abuse, more or less. Only God's all-loving can make us stronger and beautiful and sweet in spite of all the evil even of ones in our own families and friendships. "And who is he who will harm you if you become followers of what is good?" (1 Peter 3:13) So, You are able to do this with us, LORD our Father almighty with Your love
immune against the effects of evil in this world

hey inneed, welcome back. echoing whats been said here...keep praying for him. We never know when God is going to increase the seeds that have been planted and reach the heart of one who is lost. He does it everyday. im reminded of Moses and Aaron from your post...how when the children were wandering in the desert and came up against God. Aaron and Moses were constantly interceding in prayer for them. The same is true today..we are to standing between the spiritually "dead" and the spiritually "living" in intercession of prayer. Give him to God. He is His, too.

Again, im so glad you are back. Hope to catch ya in chat, sis. God bless you and give you peace in this. His will will be done.

in Jesus,
love momo

inneed welcome home.

I've been in your shoes sis...and I know just how you feel. I lost my exhusband to infidelity. And within a year of our divorce he married the one he was cheating on me with..and then rejected our daughter over his new wife...but sharing all that...I must share this......

I'm the happiest I have ever been in my lifetime....the reason being Jesus has filled the void my ex left. At the time I left my ex, I had absolutely no idea which direction I was headed. But...God found me a pathway and His direction was so awesome for me sis. God does have a direction for you as well, and He will reveal it as He deems you need it.

I've missed you sis, and I'm so glad your back.

Praying for you...Keep your eyes on Hope...it's still there.

luv ya lots