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Melissa sis

Thank you for sharing your heart here. I am so glad you have chosen to start this program. See in order for change to happen, we must take action, like you have done with this first step.

I know that it must feel like there is so much to deal with, but I promise you that nothing is too big, or too much for our Lord. Lay it all at His feet sis, He will take that burden from you that has been weighing on you for so long.

I bet you feel a lot lighter having got all that out. It is sometimes painful to write about our hurts and experiences, but it can be very healing to get it out there and shine the light on those things that have long been hidden.

Choose to see this program thru to the end. Dont let anyone or anything keep you from committing to completing it. And you bet satan is gonna try... But you stay on this path that God has led you to. He brought you here for a reason. Trust in His promises to you.

One step at a time sis

GBU melissa
Love in Him
lizzie

Hi Sis,
I am proud you shared your heart as this is what these forums are about. Take each step prayerfully and you will see much change. God is good.

GBU

Real

Melissa, I'm so glad you are doing the counseling program sis. There is so much healing to come through the Spirit in these steps.

Seems like you have been through much sis, but like you said, at least you are able to look around and say that there have been blessings in your life.

I know right now you feel that you are so very far away from the Lord, but just remember He is right there waiting for you to come back to Him. He will never leave you nor forsake you. He is calling to you Melissa. Just be still and listen. Hear His voice and know that He is God.

Sis, from all the anger you are holding inside, a lot of it sounds like you have some forgiving to do. Forgiving yourself, your ex boyfriend, your brother, your family, and anyone else who has ever caused you pain in your life. The anger you are carrying around towards them sis, is eating at you and causing your anger towards God. God wants good things for you sis. Yes sometimes He allows things to happen, but just remember they happen for His reasons. Whether it be so we can meet a lost soul who needs to be witnessed to, or they happen so we ourselves can grow closer to Him. He is made strong sis, when we are weak. So don't look at the trials and tribulations as bad things, but rather experiences that you can use to make you stronger in your Faith.

Melissa, keep reaching out for the Lord. Do the steps in this program. Allow yourself to be loved and to love, as well as to forgive and be forgiven.

Take care and God Bless

Hello sis,

That is alot to carry on yr shoulders. It was very hard for me to forgive those who have hurt me also, Even though u feel alone at times. i too was sexually abused by 2 family members, my brother and my cousin,and it has haunted me for years. I was always asking myself should i tell somebody and when i did tell somebody a friend and it got back to my brother he tried to convince me that it never happened a nd to forget about it. He also asked me if i wanted him to go to jail, because thats where they wld put him if i told someone. So eventually i convinced myself that it never happened and it was all just a dream until my late teens, where i questioned myself was it a dream or was it real. I too suffered from anxiety attacks and boughts of depression. i have learned to not lean on my own understanding of why these things happen to me, and truly forgive those who hurt me as hard as at may be. For jesus even said Father forgive them for they know not what they do. I find strength in scriptures and claim them as Gods personal words to me.
Philippians 4:13
I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

I never brought any of this up to anyone in my adult years Not evento my brother or cousin because sometimes i still wonder if it was just a bad dream, but know deep dwn in my heart it wasnt but sometimes i feel the embarassment as if it were. So i prayed about it and forgave them and asked God to forgive them too. and i have to remind my self daily that i forgive them, and battle off the feelings of guilt, resentment, and anger. to the point where it doesnt effect my daily life anymore. Its a process and it wasnt easy at all for me to do, trust me. but i can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

may u find hope for yourself and comfort in these words by knowing u are not alone and the struggles u go through others go trough as well , but He is there to help you if u let Him.

God bless u melissa

JILL

Hi, Melissa! I am glad you are doing the steps. They truly will help you. You have so many emotions that you are dealing with. If you focus on getting right with God and continue to work on your relationship with Him first, He will help you work out the rest of your life. Make Him number one. He wants you to be happy and succeed. But He also wants to be the priority and love of your life.

Seek Him and His will for you. He will always be with you, loving you, in the good and the bad.

God bless you, sis. May you have the peace, love, and joy of Jesus.

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Melissa, I'm so glad you are continuing with the steps. Depression is so difficult to overcome, but know that there is Hope in the Lord. He can bring so much joy and happiness to your life. Right now, you need to begin allowing the Lord to help you heal. You are still dwelling on your ex boyfriend. Replace the thoughts of your ex with thoughts of Jesus. You have to pull the weeds sis. Everytime you think of your ex, refocus and sing a song to the Lord. Replace those thoughts. One step at a time sis, one day at a time. Take small steps, but at least take a step. Don't stand still anymore, allowing the emotions to control you. Begin to find your feet again. Reach for the Lord, talk to Him, share with Him. Allow the Lord to be your light in this path of overwhelming depression. He will bring you back into the brightness of a new day, if you will but let Him.

Praying for you sis.

luv ya

awww Melissa i know its hard for you right now..exhausted when things hppnd at a time..its so glad to see u keep trusting in Him no matter how hard is ur situation now, yes thts it sis!..u are not alone sis..He is with u..! let Him guide u..n ask Him to help u to focus ur mind on Him.. "The LORD'S compassions never fail. They are new every
morning; great is Your faithfulness" (Lamentations 3:22-23).

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Melissa, good morning sis. Forgiveness is a crucial part of our relationship with the Lord, ourselves and others. If we walk around carrying grudges, then how can we truly feel the love that Jesus so wants us to have? If we are always angry at ourselves, then how can we love ourself? We can't. As you continue to pull one weed at a time. Make sure to replace the seed of the weed, with a healthy fruit seed. If not, the weed can easily come back, but if there is something planted in it's place, it will have to try and find elsewhere to go.

Keep doing the steps sis. They will help you heal, and grow. My prayers are that your angry will begin to fade as you continue on the path of growing in the love of the Lord.

luv ya sis

love ya sis. Ask the Lord to show you where you need to forgive also. His Spirit will reveal those areas to you. It's so easy to take it back, become angry all over again....when these things come back to your memory, ask the Lord to help you with it. Choose to forgive, not cause its easy to do, but because you know the Lord has taken it when you gave it to Him and you dont have to carry it anymore. I am praying for you too, sister. One day at a time..one step at a time.

love ya,
in Jesus,
momo