Christianity Oasis Forum

[vahn]

Ok , semper , I'm just following a simple suggestion from some very dear friends that I had made here at the Oasis . Where as before , like you , didn't consider myself of having ANY friends at all (with the exception of my sponsor(s) and people I had to interact with on a daily basis , and even then it was by choice (mine) , I chose it to be that way and for awhile it was fine and dandy with me , that is , up until the time where I started thinking "There must be more to this life than just work and shoot the breeze with the same people day in and day out " . That is when I clicked Explorer and here I am typing , a year or so later ! All the while , I had made the closest and dearest friends I had ever thought of being capable of making , let alone the knowledge that such people even existed , at the same time , all the other "friends" are all gone ! But you know what ? Through the TRUE friends I had made here , they walked with me through all those "losses" to the point where their memory(s) pop in my head from time to time , these guys taught me how to smile at those memories rather than sigh and wipe my forehead instead .

As of

only place i cin make nethang closeta a friend is online, whar ppl cin jus hit the ignor button.

I can only speak for myself , and I don't lie , because I think by so doing I will be depriving you from the truth that you deserve ok ?
Semper , I am one of those people who put you on ignore in chat . And here is the reason of MY doing so .
One , it not that I think anything "bad" or "wrong" with you , it is just the fact that I don't want to spend half the time trying to figure out what you typed rather than what is it that you're saying .
Two , I KNOW that you are a very intelligent person , and I also know that you can use proper English VERY well and so do you . So , connecting the dots , (and this may upset you a bit) You are putting on a facade , and no one likes to talk to a mask ! They feel like they are being deceived . Hence , what's the next course of action to take ? Put him on ignore !
It is NOT that I am putting YOU on ignore , but rather putting the facade out of my way , because I don't like to be taken for a fool .

The choice you have to make (not me , or them) is to decide whether you want to talk to you or the mask ?
Here's a hint , after all , it is my intent to be of utmost service to help a brother . If was to put the mask up front , people will be helping the mask , and the mask gets better , but vahn stays the same ! But, ... if I were to put vahn up front , the mask disappears all by itself ... and VAHN gets better !

Your choice !


In Christ , our Lord
luv ya brother

[SEMPERFIDELUS8403]

from now on im just gonna say 'hey' ta ppl, less sum1 says smtta me i int talkn nemore. evary1 hates it fine. ill leave n go sumwhar else. this is how i talk, this is how i liketa talk, so fergit it. i quit

[mlg]

Semper...I find nothing wrong with the way you type...in fact if you like to type the way you do then that's cool with me...but...

Your quitting? But you've just began...

Just remember this is your journal...and you can type anything you want in it...anyway you want to...

I encourage you to continue...but I can't force you too...but if you do I can assure you...you will be glad you finished....we can't ever get anywhere by just quitting...

Praying for you.

luv ya

[lizzie]

brother semper...

we have a wonderful member and she is so unique that it shines thru even in her typing

Yes some found it difficult to read, but it was a part of her uniquenes, and in getting to know her people discovered that who she was was more important than how she typed.

I personally dont have any probs with your typing, it rather reminds me of my friend i spoke of above

And dont even think that we are gonna let ya quit this program due to a typing issue... nuh uh. Your freedom and healing is whats at stake here... Choose wisely my friend.

Dont forget we are having our Christian Support group chat tonite at 10est. I really hope u can make it fidel, its a wonderful time of sharing, and I would luv to have u there my brother

[SEMPERFIDELUS8403]

no1ll have a prob now cus ill answar ppl, but ats it. im sicka hearin it. i shuld jus stop comin onta chats period. ill keep doin what i said id do. but otharn at im dun.

[mlg]

wait....so that's it huh? You don't want to allow me a chance to be your friend? You'd rather run away? Come on now...

I'll be here if you change your mind...I can't make you...I can only offer.

luv ya regardless of what you decide

[SEMPERFIDELUS8403]

if sum1 says sumtnta me ill talk back, but im only talkn if spokenta. is is how i talk, i int changn the only parta me i do like. ill leave the chat n nevar come back 1st

[mlg]

hey...I never asked you to change the way you are...if that's what you like about yourself then that's ok......I never asked you to leave chat...

See I wanna share something with you....everyone of us is unique in our own way...and with that uniqueness comes gifts...but we have to learn to use those gifts correctly...and that only comes from getting to know the ONE who can show you....and you know who that is....

Finish the steps...go to step 3.

I will wait...

luv ya

[vahn]

Semper , listen brother

No one here askin you to either change or leave or do things you don't want to do .

You just simply said something about why people put you on ignore , and I simply answered why I do that , I never spoke on anyone's behalf ok ?

It is simply a choice you have to make , not me .

As far as whether you want to leave or not , that is yet another choice you have to deal with . I would personally rather have you stay , but ...

just take a look at how willing you are of leaving here . By saying things like that , aren't you in effect saying "I'm asking for help , but this is how I want it to be served to me !! , or else I'll leave !! " Think about it !


luv ya

[realtmg]

I use to feel sorry for myself and cry the poor me's also.
I also use to feel as i was in prison and actually i was........... 3 times bro. Did 8 years. Know what? I can smile now.
Been in prison on the outside too. Selfishness and self-centered will put you there.
Be grateful for a change. People luv and care!!!!

GBU

Real

[vahn]

Semper

Following yet another suggestion as to " If you don't understand what is a person saying , ask'em ! "
Now why would they make a suggestion like that ? Isn't it obvious that prior to making that suggestion , there had been a question that was asked ? AND , why would anyone ask a question if they didn't care ? Wouldn't it be much simpler if I were to just walk away ? "Hey not my problem right ? "

My brother . It is NOT (and this the second time I'm trying to stress the point) It is not a matter of how you type or any dialect you chose to write with or why for that matter , that is NOT the issue here , I myself speak , read and write in five different languages and believe me I know and have learnt how to separate language from what it is actually being said , and I don't need "language" for that , I go by this thing called "The Language of the Heart" .

When I come across a statement like ,

it jus reminds mea how much i hate bein alive. my life int at bad, it jus feels like itll nevar end...

I get to do some head scratching .

Now , at first I try to make an attempt to understand a statement like that on my own , then I'll let the person know my interpretation of it just for the sake of clarification , and if that person says to me no , you're wrong , I expect them and in fact welcome their explanation as to why , hence we grow right ? On the other hand , when that person's response be along the lines of "Because I said so , that's why !" The only choice I get to be left with is saying " I guess we both right then huh ? If that be the case , I'll stick to my own opinion "

In your statement in quotes above , reading it backwards (my method of finding out of what being said) , I read " it just feels like it'll never end " I go what is IT ? Then I go back another sentence , and this one reads "My life ain't that bad " I'm going like " Isn't that awesome !! If my life wasn't that bad I wouldn't want it to end either !! Who in their right mind would wanna !" But here's when I get real confused , and and I get to double read read just to make sure , and this where I find myself to having to do whatever I can to help you with , oh , in other words , stirs a caring nature in me , is when I read , before these two sentences "IT reminds me how much I hate my life" !!
Before I ask you what is it that YOU mean , please allow me to let you know of what I am thinking .
The first thing that drew my attention most is the word "IT" , so I go back to your post trying to find out what "IT" is , and you know what I see ? Me , me , me , I , I , I . So here is where WE ALL come in brother , trying to help you with seeing things in another perspective of the way things are , and before anything anyone of us can do in an attempt to be of any help whatever , is to see why is it that you think this way first , in your own way of understanding things . But , I don't know about anybody else , when I get an answer of "Because it is , and if you don't like , tough , I'll just leave !" I go "Who was that ?" "Why did he come here for ?"

Could you please explain your statement in quotes above ? I'm not getting it , maybe I'm missing something !.


In Christ