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guys being friends with taken girl

Postby abbrachelle » Wed Jan 28, 2015 12:21 am

Ik so I got super sick started feeling better I wanted to go out. All my girl friends were busy so I asked my guy friend if he wanted to hang out. My boyfriend at the time became very agitated. It was just gonna be 2 friends hanging out nothing more and my boyfriend didn't want me going out alone. Was I wrong? ????,
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Re: guys being friends with taken girl

Postby dema » Wed Jan 28, 2015 6:14 am

It wasn't wise. If you want to hang out with your guy friend when you have a boyfriend, then it is best if someone else is there also. It wasn't wrong so much as just not wise. I know everybody else was busy. Uncomfortable situation. I assume your boyfriend was busy as well?
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Re: guys being friends with taken girl

Postby abbrachelle » Wed Jan 28, 2015 7:29 am

Well we were going to be in public nowhere private to hang out. ... no he had no job and lived outta town. It was bad for me to spend time with my friend. ..that was 32...I'm 18 was in a committed relationship. There was no interest t here just hanging out. But the ex has girls on his Facebook. ..that was ok but I couldn't have any guys but him on mine. ..it caused so much drama that I left
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Re: guys being friends with taken girl

Postby dema » Thu Jan 29, 2015 6:46 am

I don't understand. Did you run into your boyfriend while out with your friend? Or drama via text? Did you leave your friend or did you break up with your boyfriend? I think that often the uninterested one thinks that going out is no big deal when maybe the other person is interested in her. It is a lot more common for a 32 year old to be interested in an 18 year old than vice versa - but it generally isn't a good idea.

People think things and talk - it is a lot better now than in the past. My father took me to a movie when I was 20 and afterwards we were holding hands walking back to the car and after a couple of dirty looks from people he wouldn't hold my hand anymore. It's sad that people think that way. I felt like a little girl. We went to see a Disney movie together when I was 20.

Sometimes things are just more complicated.
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