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[Guest]

It's not really day six, but I'm behind... I felt like my wife and I were making ground... we had a setback... I changed a password to my bank acct... this truly upset her... I explained that I did that back when we 1st separated out of fear due to us not communicating... I should've told her, but I never thought about it when we were around each other... Now I didn't change our joint acct passwrd, but now she feels that I'm trying to hide something... Please pray for us....we have got to figure this out....

[mlg]

Hi wilsdot...are you working on your relationship with God at this time? I'm just curious because it's not "we" that has to figure anything out...because God has it all figured out already...how about just asking for His guidance?

Praying for you.

luv ya

[dema]

It is so awful being on that fence. Tetering and almost falling. And it isn't like one can fall into committment, one can only fall into divorce.

The trouble is that you just get so hurt and your heart hurts so bad and there is so much bad history and everything just seems to bring back the bad memories. If you could just heal for a while ....

My husband and I find that safe words help. When you feel hurt, you say your safe word and both of you are silent for a few minutes. You each have a word and all the word means is that, "I am hurting right now and I need some quiet."

We find it to be amazingly helpful.

Also, it is very hard to be the first. Dare to be the first to trust or to touch.

Women need to be touched more desparately than men do (usually).

Walking through a room and patting a shoulder or giving a little hug, scratching her back - it can do amazing things.

Of course you need the prayer and God's healing. But God needs some quiet in which to work. If you will use the safe words, then it will allow God some quiet moments to kiss your heart and help you heal.