Please help me learn to help!!!

[alicat1984]

I did the stepping stones back in September and October and they really worked for me. I have been so happy and my fiance and I have been glowing and really showing each other the love that God intends for us to show each other. Now I am having other things cause a lot stress and anxiety in my life. My brother and his wife are having major problems and it is really depressing my mom. I feel like everyone is relying on me to help them and I am trying so hard. I feel like this is a huge burden being put on me that I cannot bear and I cannot control. I want to help them, but it is up to them to make their marriage work and I feel like my family is expecting a miracle out of me. It has stressed me out so bad that ever little thing is making me so angry lately and I haven't been able to sleep more than 3 hours for the past 4 nights. My brother has an issue he really needs help with, but I can't force him to get that help. How can I help him get the help he needs without making him feel like he is worthless? He has told me a few times lately that his wife and son don't deserve what he is putting them through and I have agreed with him, but told him he can get help and has got to stop doing what he is doing. He has told me several times he wants to kill himself so we don't have to deal with him any more. I am who he is reaching out to for help and I love my brother so very much, but this is over my head and I know he needs professional help, but he won't go get it. Please pray for me and for them this holiday season!!! My mom is so down she doesn't want to celebrate Christmas this year and she has 2 grandsons one is 3 and one is 2 and I don't want her to miss out on the joy they will bring her!!! My brother is a loving and caring man and I just want to see him get back to the man he is capable of being. He has gotten out of church and my sister and I got him to church with us this past Sunday and he mentioned he misses church, so hopefully that will help.

[ServeGod]

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. Philippians 4:6
You really have a lot on your plate. Give all your worries, anxiety and troubles to the lord, for nothing is too difficult for him. He wants you to trust him and take rest.
We can give advice to our loved ones, we can pray, but the will of man we can not change. Sometimes changes take time, and we do not always see the change instantly but gradually, the fact that your brother went to church and enjoyed, is a step on that right direction.
Praying that the Holy Spirit will guide you in words and in action. Praying that you have peace, and that yu can give Jesus this burden that does not belong to you.

[alicat1984]

Thank you so much for your words of wisdom! God bless you!!!