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My wife of almost 10 years filed for divorce at the beginning of June of 2011. Since that time she has made statements and done things that would suggest she is interested in reconciliation. The problem is she has also made statements and done things that would suggest she would just rather be divorced. One time she might say I want to hear you say I love you and miss you and sometimes as soon as in a few hours she might say that we need to just get along for our 2 children and we are just friends now. She and I are in Christian Counseling and she has said the marriage is repairable, but she also has made the statement that she is doing it out of an obligation.

The continued mixed messages I receive are tearing me apart. I get so happy with herposirive statements and actions and when theyturn negative I become so distraut that I feel like I want to die.

Any insight and guidance is greatly appreciated.

Wow... that is very tough. Im sorry you are going through this and my prayers go out to you , your wife and your kids. I think the counseling is good... but make sure you talk about what is done in the counseling also and to each other. You might want to just sit and hold her hand and pray for your marriage. God can meet you there. Make sure no other people outside the marriage have an influence on your wife also. That can really add to her confusion. Remember.... there is nothing you can do to fix your wife or the marriage...God is the great fixer. Make sure you stay close to God in this time and follow in HIS will and he will direct your paths.

I am sorry about what your going through. Remember GOD hates divorce and the enemy loves it. You fight for your marriage. Your wife could be going through something physical, woman have these bouts in their lives, we sometimes become emotional and distracted. Find you a good Christian Counselor that could work with you and your wife. Be patient, kind, loving and most important listen, she is hurting. A good listener can be the most valuable to a person when they are emotional and distracted. She does love you, if she didn't she would be gone. GOD loves both of you and he is there, just talk to him and ask for his guidance and help also. My prayers are with you, stay strong and call upon Jesus. Your Sister in Christ Gabrielle.

Hello SReedy,

God bless you this day.

God's Word says "Faith is the substance of things HOPED for, the evidence of things unseen."

Unfortunately the world and our carnal mind tells us that if things don't always "appear" the way we want them, that we should get out so as not to look the fool, and that we should guard our heart and smother hope, because if the investment does not pay off, we will have wasted something valuable, namely our love.

Love and hope are from God almighty, and He wants us to walk in them, in abundance. Keep hope alive, SReedy.

I'm sending up prayers to our Lord in the name of Jesus, on your behalf. May God's blessed will be done.

God bless and keep you.
In Christ Jesus' love,
Sister Mack

Your wife seems to be waiting for you to say you love her and miss her. Maybe she is confused because she is not secure about the way you feel about her.
God wants us to love him with all our hearts, mind and strength; marriage is no different.
The marriage will work with LOVE, and you will overcome the rest.
If you only get together because of the children. Trust me it doesn't work.
May the Holy Spirit guide you both in this situation.

Gods will be done.